Yup even 4 years post op I still hear people talk with their ignorance. Unfortunately you can not change people or their way of thinking. BUT you can change your thinking for yourself. Of surgery is what you want then go for it, I did! I honestly didn't tell anyone in my family other than my parents, brothers and a very select few aunts that I was having RNY. I knew I wanted this for ME and I knew the first few months were gonna be tough and that the negative feedback was something I did NOT NEED. So that's how I kept it away until I was ready to tell my family and friends. Over the the years I learned you can never change ignorance.