I'm divorced about 4 years now. The last 3 1/2, I didn't have the energy or the confidence to put myself out there. I was sleeved 7 months ago. Went on Match late last year and have had a ton of "first dates", not many second dates, (sometimes it's him, sometimes its me), but few truly "bad" experiences. I'm near my goal at this point, and enjoying my new found social life with a confidence I've never experienced before. The attention is a bit overwhelming at times as I went from being "invisible" as an obese person, to being "seen" as a person (by all genders), seemingly overnight. It takes a bit for the brain to catch up!
I have to say, I'm picky. He has to ride a motorcycle or want to. This is a huge part of my recreational life and something I want to share with my future partner. That weeds out about 90% right there! And he has to have a commitment to fitness. I don't want\need a gym rat, but I need an accountability partner my life as I move from weight loss into maintenance, plus, he's gonna have to be healthy to keep up with me now! It feels a bit like I'm making up for lost time and I want to experience EVERYTHING!
So wish me luck, I've had 4 dates in as many days, (which wears me out, but I don't want to miss a thing)! And I have one of those rare second dates tonight. He asked me to pick a restaurant where he could find something "not fried", (no, he doesn't know about my procedure yet), and we're meeting on our bikes if the rain clears. This one just might make the cut!