Miss Mac

If he crosses that line and physically cheats on you, then he is bring someone else's germs home to you and risking your health, which is not cool and is the ultimate disrespect in the marriage. My religious upbringing was very restrictive and put me in a position to "pray and stay" ten years too long with a prolific cheater. No woman deserves to be treated like yesterday's trash. I have taken flak for this position before, but I am going to say it again for the newbies here on the forum. Instead of thinking "I love him. Why does he treat me this way?" Start thinking, "Why would I love someone who treats me this way?" My girls were 15 and 17 when their father and I finally divorced, and I was already employed. I do not know how we would have proceeeded with more or smaller children, since my family was hundreds of miles away. You do not deserve this crap. I think you and your husband need to have a very direct and honest communication about where you stand in his world of priorities. Miss Text Witch needs to be deleted before he loses all that should be precious to him. He need to come directly home after work and be present and involved with his family. Good luck Sweetie. If you get tired of being strong, come here to the forum. I am sure that in all the myriad of opinions you will get, someone's experience and advice will be that gem that you need to get through this one way or the other. Carry on, soldier.

My insurance, BC/BS FEderal Employee will cover Panniculectomy two years after weight loss surgery, if chafing, infection, back ache have been consistently documented during that time.

I get a Tupperware burp.

22 of those pounds were lost in the 4 month pre-op phase, so 28 pounds in 10 weeks is a lot better than if I had not had the surgery. That comes out to 2.8 pounds per week. I guess it all comes out in the wash, but we do get impatient for a little something to fall off every day. Arrrrrrrgh, I was instructed to weigh every day so as to not fall into complancy.

I hear you. I am in yet another stall in spite of doing everything right and following my program to a T. With my limit set at 800 calories a day, I really can't eat any less, so I will double up on the exercise. Dang, this is a lot of work. Nothing "easy" about it, Sometimes I beat myself up thinking maybe I COULD have lost the weight if I could just find that magic bullet. But Ihave been on a diet since 1976, so I just had to give up and give in to the surgery. I know it will fall off, but the stalls sure are exasperating. Rock on!

I have gotten relief from Milk of Magnesia, plus I take a magnesium tablet and a Dulcolax morning and night. I also keep prune juice on hand. Sounds like a lot, but I eat eat so much Protein plus the whey protein of one shake a day. There is not much room left in MIss Tummy for veggies and Beans, and fruit is limited because of the sugar. Plus you could put Benefiber in your beverages. Good luck, I hope everything comes out O K (pun intended).

Oh, I wanted to add this. Sometimes the whey Protein powders clump up, so I started using my strainer. It made a big difference not swallowing clumps of whey. There is a 140 degree limit with whey protein powder, but it clumps up in any temperature of liquid anyway.

I mixed Syntrax varieties or unjury strawberry with Crystal Lite Lemonade or sugar free cranberry/grape juice. Also, there is Unjury unflavored Protein powder that you can put in anything. The Unjury chocolate Splendor can be mixed with a sugar free cocoa packet (and I put Lite Cool Whip in mine, too). There is always the Unjury chicken Soup variety, too. So, not everything has to be thick and milky.

Bread, Pasta, and sugar is what fueled my binging and weight gain, with an incessant appetite and non-stop hunger. With my calories limited at 800, I need to be diligent in using those 800 for Protein and veggies. So, there is no interest now in turning back. No more grain products for me. I do not want to open that door.

I will hit three months soon, and just had a nutrition appointment last week. She told me to stay around 800 until I can significantly increase my activity level. I just broke through a stall when I decided to hold back on enjoying so much cheese.

Same reaction here with pureed cauliflower. Miss Tummy immediately rejected it, and within 15 minutes had purged my system like a colonic. It will be a looooong time before I try any of the cruciferous vegetables from the cabbage family.

Miss Tummy has taught me to eat slower and take a minute between bites. She talks to me, and I had better listen, because she is my food boss now. I was told by the surgeon that I should eat 1/3 cup of Protein and two tablespoons of whatever my veggie or fruit is going to be. Miss Tummy made her own adjustment and reminds me to NEVER eat that last bite! My signals that it is time to stop are: 1. A "Tupperware" burp 2. A yawn 3. A belch (very loud, surprises even me sometimes) 4. A sneeze I got away from measuring and just started to eyeball my servings, but it was too easy to put too much on my plate, so I am back to measuring. If I transgress, Miss Tummy makes me suffer for about four hours. Lesson learned.

What a great start! Don't let negative people be joy suckers.

My biggest pre-op fear was the excruciating 2 or 3 days of shoulder gas everyone was talking about. I had that problem with a previous lapascopic procedure last year with a different doctor at a different hospital. I asked my surgeon at the final pre-op meeting how he manages the build up of CO2, and he said he would extract as much as possible when they close everything up. Guess what???? No post-op shoulder gas at all. I had worried for nothing. My post-op fear is the inevitable hair loss. As a pre-emptive strike, I am striving to keep up with my Protein and am also supplementing with Biotin. I bought some lightweight turban hats for if it gets too bad, but it is what it is. At least it grows back. If it makes me cry, I will just go wig shopping. The surgery was worth it. I feel better and my range of motion is improving. So, I will take a deep breath and keep chugginh along.

That goodness they found that blockage. Good luck with your sleeve surgery. The wait will be worth it.

You can just tell her how much better you can get around and how great you feel. Tell her that the weight loss is impacting your quality of life in a positive way and you don't regret the surgery at all. Your loss is within what is expected from this surgery. Some folks lose a little faster than others, and as your weight goes down, it will probably slow down, requiring more of that walking. Keep up the good work and don't let her suck the joy out of you. She may not understand the process and will have to learn by your example.

http://www.marksdailyapple.com/primal-blueprint-fitness/ This will help. You are not a quitter. You are a deep thinker. Thanks for the example of balance verses / over exuberance. Exercise feels awesome. Pain not so much. Mark's Daily Apple is an informative and encouraging website for people who are serious about taking responsibility for the fitness of their human container, no matter what your starting level is. I even bought the Vibram Five Finger Barefoot Shoes that he recommends, but since they are expensive, I got them on clearance from the Travel Country website. Go you!

My whole care plan has been hijacked by my weight. My prescriptions are all to alleviate conditions caused by my weight. Therefore, my relationship with my doctor must include conversation about my weight. The best advice he ever gave me was that my back problem is a front problem. he became my physician in 2010 after my previous primary was ignoring my concerns about my rediculously and alarming high blood pressure (215/110 when I went for a procedure at the pain clinic), which caused a stroke 2 weeks later. Thankfully, I had just moved during those two weeks and was taken by ambulance to a different hospital, where my current primary was assigned to be my attending physician. As a team, we tried everything in a weight loss protocol over these past three years and my body was not responding in spite of our valient effforts. So, last August he referred me to the bariatric clinic to get weight loss surgery. Do we talk about my weight? Yeah, all the time? Am I offended? No, because he's not beating me up with a harsh tone. He is gentle and cautious in his conversation and knows that weight problems can mask a delicate psyche. That's the difference. He is not a green meanie. Here's to all of the good doctors out there who want the best fo us!

This is my response to another poster's concern about co-morbidities. I thought it would be helpful to post it here as a separate post. Here is a complete list of co-morbidities that insurance companies use in evaluating your case. I got it from dsfacts.com. DS stands for duodenal switch. Hope this helps. Maybe you will find some you see as familiar. I also provided a heartfelt letter for my packet, which explained why I need the surgery and how my weight and co-morbities were degrading my quality of life. In that letter, I explained when I started gaining weight and listed the diets and exercise programs that have failed me. I told them about family members who have died of conditions on the co-morbities list. I included a list of the medications I am taking for conditions related to my obesity. I shared info about surgeries and joint replacements and other treatments necessary because of my weight. I told them about inconveniences and the adjustments I have had to make to function throughout my day, and how how the weight itself prevents me from an effective and agressive exercise program. Then I closed the letter by explaining how the surgery would drastically improve my quality of life, and thanking them in advance for approving the surgery which would surely extend my life and reduce the need critical medical care in the future. When composing any good presentation, follow these 3 rules: 1. Tell them what you are going to tell them. 2. Tell them. 3. Tell them what you told them. Good luck. Obesity ComorbiditiesTo follow is a list of comorbidities (additional conditions or diseases) related to obesity which may help you in qualifying for weight loss surgery. Family history of heart disease Family history of stroke Family history of diabetes Family history of heart attacks Hyperinsulinemia Diabetes High blood pressure Coronary-artery disease Hypertension Migraines or headaches directly related to obesity or cranial hypertension Congestive heart failure Neoplasia Dyslipidemia Anemia Gallbladder disease Osteoarthritis Degenerative arthritis Degenerative disc Degenerative joint disease Recommended joint replacement from specialist Accelerated degenerative joint disease Asthma Repeated pneumonia Repeated pleurisy Repeated bronchitis Lung restriction Gastroesophageal reflex (GERD) Excess facial & body hair (Hirsutism) Rashes Chronic skin infections Excess sweating Frequent yeast infections Urinary stress incontinence Menstrual irregularity Hormonal abnormalities Polycystic ovaries Infertility Carcinoma (breast, colon, uterine cancer) sleep apnea Pseudotumor cerebri Depression Psychological/sexual dysfunction Social discrimination Premature death For more information on the NIH qualifications for weight loss surgery: Gastrointestinal surgery for severe obesity. Proceedings of a National Institutes of Health Consensus Development Conference, March 25-27, 1991.

Here is a complete list of co-morbidities that insurance companies use in evaluating your case. I got it from dsfacts.com. DS stands for duodenal switch. Hope this helps. Maybe you will find some you see as familiar. I also provided a heartfelt letter for my packet, which explained why I need the surgery and how my weight and co-morbities were degrading my quality of life. In that letter, I explained when I started gaining weight and listed the diets and exercise programs that have failed me. I told them about family members who have died of conditions on the co-morbities list. I included a list of the medications I am taking for conditions related to my obesity. I shared info about surgeries and joint replacements and other treatments necessary because of my weight. I told them about inconveniences and the adjustments I have had to make to function throughout my day, and how how the weight itself prevents me from an effective and agressive exercise program. Then I closed the letter by explaining how the surgery would drastically improve my quality of life, and thanking them in advance for approving the surgery which would surely extend my life and reduce the need critical medical care in the future. When composing any good presentation, follow these 3 rules: 1. Tell them what you are going to tell them. 2. Tell them. 3. Tell them what you told them. Good luck. Obesity ComorbiditiesTo follow is a list of comorbidities (additional conditions or diseases) related to obesity which may help you in qualifying for weight loss surgery. Family history of heart disease Family history of stroke Family history of diabetes Family history of heart attacks Hyperinsulinemia Diabetes High blood pressure Coronary-artery disease Hypertension Migraines or headaches directly related to obesity or cranial hypertension Congestive heart failure Neoplasia Dyslipidemia Anemia Gallbladder disease Osteoarthritis Degenerative arthritis Degenerative disc Degenerative joint disease Recommended joint replacement from specialist Accelerated degenerative joint disease Asthma Repeated pneumonia Repeated pleurisy Repeated bronchitis Lung restriction Gastroesophageal reflex (GERD) Excess facial & body hair (Hirsutism) Rashes Chronic skin infections Excess sweating Frequent yeast infections Urinary stress incontinence Menstrual irregularity Hormonal abnormalities Polycystic ovaries Infertility Carcinoma (breast, colon, uterine cancer) sleep apnea Pseudotumor cerebri Depression Psychological/sexual dysfunction Social discrimination Premature death For more information on the NIH qualifications for weight loss surgery: Gastrointestinal surgery for severe obesity. Proceedings of a National Institutes of Health Consensus Development Conference, March 25-27, 1991.

This kinda choked me up, Miss Reverie......congratulations.

My psych evaluation was an interview that lasted about a half hour, addressing the issues presented by BryBro 63. My psychologist was sweet and non-judgmental and made the process painless. I wish you good luck and good health.

Mythbuster is on to something with the Tylenol. My gastoenterologist has fobidden me from taking ANSAIDS ever again because of the damage it did to my stomach, so I am not about to torture my new tummy. I just keep Tylenol on hand for bad days.

I agree with Bronco0605. I have the video Walk Your Belly Flat by Leslie Sasson, which is speed walking in place, with added arm, leg and waist movements that engage every muscle in the body. It can be done standing in place holding on to a walker if you have to. I also do strength training, one day with small handheld bar bells, and a second day with body resistance (wearing ankle and wrist weights) - things like: pull ups, push ups,squats, elbow crossed over to knee crunches, and lunges holding a gallon of laundry soap in each hand. Even Pilates kicks my butt. Sometimes, I even dance to the music for half an hour. My form stinks but it is improving. There are a lot of things you can do in a small space. The human body needs to move or we crystalize with inflammation and arthritis. Between the sleeve and exercise and losing halfway to my goal weight, my health and energy are improving exponentially. Exercise actually feels good now. Who'd a thunk it? I can't wait for weather nice enough to be outside. It is 14 degrees in Chicago today. Brrrrrrrrr. Also, I broke a stall when I quit eating so much cheese (one of my slider foods).

This made me smile. What a motivator for keeping up with your program.