Indigo1991

Dignity, get ready for them to do more than flop when you lose more weight. Mine are like little oranges at the bottom of a long sock. People think I am joking when I say I roll them up and tuck them in my bra, lmao! Am planning reduction, so hopefully that will put them back where they should be ....

Make sure you get your Water and Protein in - and keep moving. Don't try to do anything fancy, your body is just adjusting to the new "normal" and it will get back into its rhythm soon. Stick to the programme and relax :-) Congratulations on a great start!

My boobs were last to go - I looked like Jessica Rabbit!!!! It will even out, I found my shape changed monthly but it did eventually settle down. Congratulations on the weight loss to date :-)

RJ, you are some girl... a personal trainer, writing classes... Next thing you'll be on a plane heading over to see me to try to say hi to Gerard Butler I am so impressed by your attitude and general zest for life. You are a star!!!! X

Support takes many forms - and sometimes it involves being direct and honest. For many of us, no one has ever bothered to do that for us and it's easy to keep persuading yourself woe is me when you should really be taking responsibility. I can see no name calling but if anyone has concerns about anything said on the site, as feedyoureye says, report it immediately. However, bear in mind, everyone is entitled to their opinion but that shouldn't be allowed to distract us from helping the OP... Lauri407 and Wags, good well meant advice. Nancy264, you have a lot of support here, we are willing you on. We have all had issues with food, for some of us it's been a long term addiction. But there came a point when I had to take responsibility for what went in my mouth. For me, it was when I had surgery, when I had the practical support of my sleeve. You're not there yet - but it is time to start taking responsibility. You will feel great when you go a day without your drug of choice - in this case Diet soda, lol!!!! Of course, it's hard but keep trying. Good luck, keep posting. Remember, lots of people have been where you are -and they have succeeded.

Willow13, good luck when your date comes! I'm in Scotland too so if you want any help or advice, either before or after surgery, send me a pm. Being sleeved is the best thing I have ever done for myself, hope it works out for you :-)

Agree with LilMissDiva, don't stress if you don't need them - and you don't appear to. I haven't had one shake at all, wanted to live eating real food as that fitted in better with my life. If you can get your Protein in through food, then no reason to start drinking shakes now. Congratulations on doing so well!

You can go off people, no matter how much you like them...especially when you are sitting at 0 degrees and wearing so many layers to stay warm, it looks like you've put on 20lbs, lol. We may have to organise a flight from the UK to Florida.... Now see what you've done!

Will keep everything crossed for you! It isn't an easy surgery or without its risks. But those are balanced - outweighed?- by the benefits. Yes, there are potentially things that can go wrong but for many of us, keeping doing the same with our eating was going to result in an early end... There are a few people on here who have had a really tough time post-op, with serious complications, and even they say they are glad they have been sleeved. There are some who think it's the worst thing they could have done and bitterly regret it. Just be informed and aware of what you are getting into and you will make the right decision for you. Good luck - but it is exciting :-)))))

Whilst we are always told to follow instructions, we should always be able to go at our own pace, especially as you don't want to jump ahead! However, as you say, the Swiss way is pretty different Do feel this may be related to quantity and dense Protein - but good idea to talk to someone tomorrow if you still don't feel right.... If you want to talk or ask questions at any time, pm me :-)

While you do eat differently, some of the difficult things of the early days settle down. By 9 months out, I could drink pretty much as before, including gulping if necessary! I choose not to drink and eat because I now understand why I shouldn't. I am now allowed to drink until 20 mins before eating and start again 20 mins after. No real hardship there. I still keep my fluids up - which we should all do irrespective of WLS. I eat Protein first, keep carbs low and take my Vitamins daily. I also remember to keep moving I eat out at least 3 times a week, socialise with friends, have the very, very occasional alcoholic drink and get on with living what is a much happier life than when I weighed 85lbs more. Yes, there is a restriction. I eat less. I have to make good food choices to keep myself healthy and full of energy. But do I miss my diabetes? My meds and pain relief? My high BP? My increasing cholesterol? My sweaty body? My lack of energy? My depression? Nope, not a bit. That's why eating differently doesn't frighten me - the good things that have happened to me post WLS far outweigh the effort I put in to eating nowadays. I know that being sleeved looks daunting pre surgery - and it is not something to do lightly, without being informed or being prepared for the difficult first weeks. By having been through it all, I wouldn't hesitate to do it again... Good luck figuring out what's best for you, keep asking questions here, there's so much advice and support from people who've been where you are :-))))

None of us are doctors so if the feeling persists, call and check with whoever did your surgery to get reassurance that all is well. More than likely that you ate bits that weren't well enough chewed and your stomach is feeling a bit tender as a result. Salmon is pretty dense food (as is cauliflower) so maybe go back a step and find things that will be kinder to your stomach if you don't chew well enough, eat too fast etc. Soft foods shouldnt need much chewing at all. But eating is always trial and error in the early days and everyone's stomach is different. You won't necessarily have a big choice to start with but I would probably try eggs (omelette, scrambled etc), I steamed fish in milk and minced beef, chicken etc and cooked them until they really didn't need chewed :-)))) Also check the list you got post surgery and find things that might be easier to eat for now. It is highly unlikely you have damaged your sleeve but don't be scared to ask someone medical for theirmopinion. Take it easy, this is a marathon not a sprint, so if you need to eat slightly more puréed foods than soft foods, do that... Congratulations on your sleeve, hope you get a great outcome! Ps you may also have eaten too much... Hence the feeling of food being stuck. You will get that if you overfill your little stomach... that might be why you got the slimes and throwing up. So one bite at a time and see how it goes until you learn how much is enough :-))) And it is likely to be way less than you think.....

Pampi, sorry to hear what's happening. I was sleeved nine months ago and started losing hair 3 months out and it's just letting up now. I have used Toppik, keratin hair fibres that you shake into the roots of your hair to make it look thicker - and it fills in any gaps so no bald spots. Has saved my life as I lost 50% of the thickness of my hair and you could see my scalp. But no one else noticed as Toppik covered it all up... Hang in there it does get better!

Lisa, I don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you, your husband and daughter. I wish there was more I could say to comfort you... but you are not alone and will not be alone as you go through this. We are all here for you, although that seems so little to offer you. I know how hard it will be but don't forget to live. It's right to focus on the fight ahead but try to make memories as you go. Be as kind to yourself as you are to your husband. My thoughts are with you.

I am soooooo not talking to you Gmanbat! Send some sunshine and heat over here please to raise my measly 2degrees to something more agreeable... Lol!

It does get better, honest! Without getting technical, water is hard for our stomachs to take - think about insects skating on water. They do that because of the tension in the water. To make it easier to drink, you need to break the tension. And you do that by putting a few drops of anything in it - in my case, I put in a splash of sugar free squash. Made getting it down much easier :-)))

This is your life, your body. No one will wake up tomorrow and live your life for you - not even your son. Those around us are concerned and frightened for us, whether we have a band, sleeve or bypass, so they aren't necessarily the right people to advise us. Only you can make the decision. And you do that by being informed. Listen to all the views you read on the site, do independent research - then decide what it is you want to achieve for you. And go for the option that will get you there. I know, that makes it sound simple. But, in the end, it is. You either do something or not. Depends where you are in life. I had nowhere left to go with my weight and my comorbidities. I couldn't live my life for anyone else other than me because it was me who was going to die early if I didn't do something positive about my health. So I got sleeved. Was it easy? No, neither emotionally or physically. But it was worth it as I sit here post a medical where my BP is exactly normal, as is my cholesterol, my diabetes has gone and my arthritis is in remission, down to one injection a fortnight with my chemo drug stopped post surgery. I go dancing, I exercise, I am having so much fun and I am living life how I should have done for years. I have no problems with eating out (I go out 3-5 times a week), my social life is amazing. Am sending you a big hug and ask you to be brave, don't let anyone leave their imprint on you... this is your one and only life, grab it and make the most of it :-)

This is worth it, you can do it, lol! Not enough motivation? Ok, you are on the road to transforming your life, some of it you will expect and be ready for. Some of it you won't. There will be bumps in the road - this isn't an easy surgery, physically or emotionally. But as you lose weight and reach goal, life will not be the same. I dance, I exercise, I accept invitations I used to hide from. I love shopping for clothes, I have a social life and I go on dates. I laugh. I love being alive. And I thank my sleeve every day :-)))))) Good luck, I wish you every success....

Go, RJ! Us and our sleeves, what a team... at least you know now that you and fries are no longer friends

And there is a lot less of your arse to see :-0 Congratulations, well done - and two thirds of the way there with your humour intact! xx

Ha ha ha ha - great story, well done! You must have felt fantastic!!!!!!

Vent away! You have been a real inspiration over the time I have been on the site. You have been strong about all you have been through and thoughtful about the way you recount your story. So I am sorry to hear that you have been stressed by your life recently. I am not going to tell you off for anything you said about what you've eaten - I might if I was perfect but I ain't! But rather than beating yourself up about what you've done, what would you have done in the past when stressed? I bet by comparison, the last week has still been a fraction of what you would have eaten in the past. Great thing is your self-awareness. You know what you've done - and you know how to fix it. You're out your exercise routine and that will come back. You're a bit squashed by life, but that will pass. You've got this. Be kind to yourself as you have been to others when they have slipped. So, CGJ, time to get back on the horse and get on with it !!!! :-)))))

I was a UK size 22 and am now a UK 10. Was a 40FF bra size, now a 34HH..... aimng for 34D post cosmetics. Still can't quite believe it, although I can see it )))))

Every little helps!

Can't help with wounds - poor you, that sounds awful - but problems and 1 and 2 are likely to be linked. If you aren't keeping anything down, you will have no energy and won't be able to do anything. No idea how old the kids are - can you get them to do anything to help? That aside, a little dirt never did anyone any harm Problem 1 needs attention. By week 4, you might expect to be getting a little in and keeping it down. Have you been checked by your PCP? Otherwise, are you actually trying to get too much in? The sensations you describe sound how I felt In the early days when I tried to eat more than I should- took me a few weeks to get the hang of how little I should be eating. Are you still on purée - perhaps you need to go back a stage to give your stomach a bit longer to recover? Do you chew everything to death, until it is a liquid in your mouth? Perhaps you need to eat little and more often? Sorry if you have tried all these things but they are the usual starting points to try to sort the problem. But if you have tried and you are still in pain eating and still throwing up, you need to see a doc and get a medical opinion. Good luck, let us know how you get on....