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I am just not about that life. I cannot sew things onto my tongue. That fleshy par hurts lots!!! I had my tongue pierced twice when I was 2o ish and 30...mistakes for me both times....but plastic mesh on tongue...Nope....I will take 1 sleeve please.http://abcnews.go.com/Health/pain-weight-loss-tongue-patch-diet/story?id=19840923

Abranewme , Camella and Disco you three ladies made me smile this Sunday evening . Camella I am evil when hungry as well. I can relate. Ladies marriage is a challenge . I love my husband deeply . I know he loves me. But he is just not able to put himself in my shoes . My prayer is that he will change once the weight starts to truly come off. The sentiment that means the most is that you all say I am not alone . Thank you

thanks VSGKirk for the male perspective .

Reigo that was funny!!! I am not Jarod (Subway).LOL! My husband told me that he did not feel I needed the surgery. He stated " You are not that bad off, just exercise !". I was offended for I do exercise. That is the problem in a nut shell I try to walk in his shoes , but he does not in mines. Oftentimes, I believe my husband feels I have it easy. I am in graduate school full time to become a Licensed Clinical Social Worker to work with military families. We have three children (one of which has Autism). I am the cook, gardener, chauffeur, doctor, accountant, problem solver, maid, car repair person, and I have become totally overwhelmed. He says " honey I appreciate all that you do", but it would be better if he showed me. I know people assume all fat people sit at home eating donuts and watching Home Shopping Network, but that is not true for everyone. Some of us had medical issues, bad hormones, stress and overall poor decision making due to life circumstances. I made a vow to myself once I lose this weight not to judge others, for the struggle is real. thanks for the laugh Reigo, I really needed it.

Thank you Dee Dee & Reigo. it is hard for so often the responsibility falls upon me. My husband has been enlisted for 18 years. We have been together nearly 14 of those years. If, anything comes up regarding bills, my health, the children etc....I just shoulder the issue alone. I am sick of not telling him how I feel . I once gain attempted to tackle the issue about 30 minutes ago, but he jumped up and went downstairs to eat. My husband avoids confrontation @ all costs. Anyway I have been using the gym on the base. We live in military housing , so lucky for me I am literally across the street from the gym. I do Zumba and Spin class a few times a week, and I throw in some Water aerobics. I do have a new friend I met here on this site whom lives about 35 minutes drive away, but we both have family and active lives. The gas prices are killing me making the drive. On the other hand, oppose to complaining I will just keep doing what I am doing. My surgery in in 4 and half weeks. No sense in becoming all sad now. Thank you for the advice and allowing me the forum to vent.

I have been working out nearly everyday for over a month now. I decided I want to have the best success after my surgery, this would be best achieved through exercise and eating right. Recently I started stalling on weight loss. I decided it was time to change the exercises up. I asked my husband whom is physically fit to teach me how to properly lift weights. He said he would do so. However, today he become annoyed with me after I asked him twice "what time were we going to the gym". He behaved as if he was getting dressed twice to go, but he would always end up back in bed playing games on the IPAD. This hurt my feelings for I felt he is not taking my commitment to health seriously. It is bad enough that he will not be in attendance for my surgery for he will be out to sea (military), but at a minimum I felt he could work out with me from time to time. I usually give in and not nag him for I always consider how hard his days and nights must be onboard the ship. I never wish to burden him with my problems. Yet, I feel he does not give me the same courtesy. Then, there is friends whom say they are going to work out with me and do not. I have already figured that this journey will be mines alone. However, the realization does not make me less sad .

I have become more loving of myself. What I mean is I have not wanted to take pictures for I felt my fat distorted my image. I was struggling with feeling sexy. Since I have been given my surgery date I have been working out constantly and starting to feel that after the surgery I will have a new life. The two things bugging me the most is my husband will be absence ( in military (will be underway) ). Further, I hear the gas after surgery is a nightmare. Outside of these two things I am READY!!!!

I am being sleeved August 21

Amy in Orlando I too am counting it down!! You go before we do!! Good luck. Keep me posted Ladies

Thank you Enhanced Curves ...by the way I love the declaration you wrote about losing weight for your daughter, as well how you love yourself now

Mines is August 21

good luck!!!Congrats

Welcome to VST BB. There are lots of answers to your question here. I am not sure how to answer your question for it appears that per insurance type your steps could be different. I am having my surgery next month. I am a military wife and I did not go through our insurance Tricare. I am having my procedure done at a military treatment facility @ no direct cost to me. In general you must have blood work done as well see a few other docs, speak with a nutritionist , as well speak with a psych ...perhaps it may not be in that order. Good luck!!

I am being sleeved in 6 weeks and 1 day, and I am experiencing a flutter of emotions. The most powerful emotion is excitement!! I see my body like clay and I am sculpture making a masterpiece. I have been exercising daily with a work out buddy, whom has had the surgery and I see her progress weekly. I keep feeling like this will be me!!! I have such high hopes, and reading many of the stories in here keeps me motivated. Seeing her grind it out at the gym, I am impressed with her progress. This is one serious journey. I am elated that we have this as an option. I have not shared that I am having WLS with everyone for many will not understand. Perhaps, they will think me lazy for going this route. While, I generally do not give a "take several seats " about others opinion , I did not want any negativity to erode the process. Once I got pass the feel of death during surgery, a flood of positive thoughts took over. I have been exercising none stop!!The results paid off ... This past weekend my husband smiled @ me often, and we racked up plenty of mattress miles. He said he is proud of how hard I am working out to be a success after surgery. I began prepping before for I see so many pictures of you ladies after showing your progress, and I think to myself " SELF that will be you"..... She tried it in my Tamar voice. Our marriage has always had love and passion. It is something different in the sex , it was desire. Yes, he adores me, but he is still a man...and he wants to see not just a beautiful wife but a sexy wife. Some of the things I miss is my husband lifting me up during our passionate sessions. I miss not being embarrassed to come out of our onsuite bath nude without covering with a towel or asking him to close his eyes. I still have memories of what we were like when I was at a healthy weight...I have been reflecting on those moments humming the words to Chrisette Michele new song "Just a couple more forevers"..... What I will NOT miss is being mortified when his hand brushes over my kangaroo pouch . I have envisioned the new me and she will be fabulous.com and getting me a newlife.org...LOL Love God, Be Happy, Live Fully

I love the phrase as well " chubby girl mind"!! This could be the name of a really trendy blog. Moving on I have the reverse " Smaller girl mind". I have not always been big. I have a closet filled with beautiful clothes that I cannot fit. I purchase sizes I cannot wear yet...Go figure . On a recent shopping trip to Marshall I purchased a beautiful red dress and a black sheer dress with a pink smaller dress underneath the black shear. The sizes are medium. My daughter thought it dumb to make purchases, and I have not had surgery yet. I find dresses tend to fit depending on the cut nicely (if I am wrong and she is right , I will post pictures to the gallery) I digress. Do not over buy....I would never buy pants or shirts, just maxi dresses and such until you reach that desired goal. Your mind will adjust when your size adjust...give it time.

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WOW!!! What an amazing testimony !! Thank you for coming back in here to share. I too am trusting God to pull me through this surgery. I have hypertension . My pressure hangs around 141/90 often. This scares me. I am scheduled to be sleeved August21. Please keep me lifted in prayer. My name is Makayla

I am experiencing tons of emotions . I am not even certain where to begin . I am ready but scared. My pre op is August 06 and surgery date is August 21

Looking for a buddy for support

Please ladies keep us updated on your process and progress. I just completed my labs @ Portsmouth Naval Hospital. I now have to see the residence shrink and nutritionist . Then I will be scheduled for the surgery . I am nervous and excited .

Congrats Rochelle !!! Stay encouraged. Be sure to get some walking around in. I am not sure if the blood clots can still form but I am told they can. Set your phone to make sure you are up drinking fluids and eating as directed . Good luck and God bless

Jenna that is amazing !!! Congrats to you for sticking with it. I am pre op just finished labs yesterday . I will be placed on pre op diet to shrink liver in the coming weeks. I hope to be scheduled for surgery by June