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You kill me sometimes.......

I too suffer from chronic depression and OCD...There have been some pretty dark days for me on this journey...I was silly enough to think that the weight loss would help with my depression because I was told by my team that some people get right off of depression meds after surgery...I realized that these were people who had bouts of depression, not chronic depression..There is a huge difference....Some would argue that point...but who cares....When mine flares up and I just had a terrible last 4 days of it..I busy myself..I start organizing cupboards and washing floors etc,,,, I have also taken up canning..Looking for fresh food to can so that I can eat better at times when the so called good food comes from somewhere else....OCD with that by the way... I am hardly home either now...I am out a about and so I am working on doing other things then eating as my option.... There are things we can do but we are so used to using food as our crutch that it is hard to find something else to take its place......Find yours K

Maybe you never will get used to not drinking Water at meal times..But the outcome is pain you say if you do it...that will not change..Your sleeve does not stretch easily... You are diluting the food you consume by drinking water too early....Figure out something to do to make that 30-45 minutes pass before you take a drink..... I clear the table, load the dishwasher, straighten the kitchen and then I sit and talk to my hubby til the time comes that I can have a tea or water..... Drink your water all day if you want....64oz...of all the ice water you need.....k

There is a bigger issue going on here then food...Something in your head has not been fixed....What is driving you to abuse yourself like this...Only you know the answer hun! Food addiction is a horrible roller coast ride that can have horrible life threatening side effects...You know that because you did the hardest thing anyone can do....You had this surgery.... Now and only now you have to start listening to your body and your sleeve...Sounds silly....But your body sends you signals to stop eating......you are eating because of an emotional reason.... Measure out your 1 cup and place it beautifully on your plate and only eat that..Slow down and chew a lot..Put your fork down after each small bite and feel the food going down and you will realize you are being fed.....Give your brain enough time to tell you you have eaten enough....If you are hungry a hour later eat some fruit or a few nuts.... This is not a low calorie diet..This is a tool we all chose to get to give us the time to work out our food addictions...You have kept a lot off....It is a battle for sure...Hope you are getting in all your Water.... There are better days a head...grab them and run with them...This is your turn to be the person inside that really wants to come out...Brush the dust off, get back on the horse and ride like the wind....Stop sabotaging yourself for only the reasons you know...Take the time to find them and if you need to talk about it...I would be happy to help where I can....send me a message if you so desire! I am only 2 months a head of you and paid a huge price for my surgery.....I work at it every day and so does everyone else....It is your turn to get where you want to be....You can do this .....K

I am having trouble keeping my jeans up...Lost a pair on the sidewalk outside my house last week...Fortunately no one was around...won't wear them again...lol

Just went on Ebay and bought 2 of them..Thank you for your advice......I wear jackets, and sweaters all the time...I hope these will help with pulling it all in...

your a West coaster, I am an East coaster.. ...

I buy my clothes at a thrift shop so it is difficult to find just the right things to wear...Yes in Canada it is stating to get colder and we are into light sweaters...guess I can't wear them till I deflate... Thanks guys for your words of encouragement!

No it's skin...and it is driving me nuts....I went down a size in clothes and they all fit except the result has been this tube of whatever hanging over my jeans...i feel like I can't even stand myself right now.....crap

The last 2 weeks I have changed..or my body has...I now have a tube around my middle and it sticks out father then my stomach and over top of my jeans...I feel so fat and ugly...I keep crying about it...Hubby tried to take an update picture since I am down another 30 lbs. But I said i did not like any of them... My middle is too big...... I can only handle spanx when I go out... And most of the time they don't fit properly and roll down or..never mind I won't give all the details about the problems I am having with Spanx......I feel like I am getting bigger because of how far it sticks out.....

The last 2 weeks I have changed..or my body has...I now have a tube around my middle and it sticks out father then my stomach and over top of my jeans...I feel so fat and ugly...I keep crying about it...Hubby tried to take an update picture since I am down another 30 lbs. But I said i did not like any of them... My middle is too big...... I can only handle spanx when I go out... And most of the time they don't fit properly and roll down or..never mind I won't give all the details about the problems I am having with Spanx......I feel like I am getting bigger because of how far it sticks out.....

way to go.....congrats!

way to go.....congrats!

It gets even worse when you have both a by-pass and sleeve like I do....Everyone is confused including me...lol

It gets even worse when you have both a by-pass and sleeve like I do....Everyone is confused including me...lol

What part of Canada are you from?

What part of Canada are you from?

A lot of us who are much farther along complain about burping or farting..okay I said it! I burp a lot glad it is not the other way for me....11 months out and does not matter if it is one bite or ten..I burp several times during my meal...I also sneeze and my nose runs when I am full...It is the way some of our bodies tell us we're full... I was told that the body always gives signals when it is full...But now we have no choice but to listen to them or we get sick.....A little off topic but same problem and why...lol

A lot of us who are much farther along complain about burping or farting..okay I said it! I burp a lot glad it is not the other way for me....11 months out and does not matter if it is one bite or ten..I burp several times during my meal...I also sneeze and my nose runs when I am full...It is the way some of our bodies tell us we're full... I was told that the body always gives signals when it is full...But now we have no choice but to listen to them or we get sick.....A little off topic but same problem and why...lol

I am returning so that he can fix whatever is wrong with me now...When you get a Doctor in Canada unless he/she has killed someone with a shotgun you keep them...Okay a bit of an exasperation...lol.... .Doctors are rare here. We can't just drop them willy nilly...Our system is different here then in the States...We don't have tons and tons of Doctors.....I have not seen him since 2006....My GP said I had to see him...He is an ass but he is the best at what he does here....So splitting hairs....Yes it is not my idea of a good time...but I have no choice but to see him......

I am returning so that he can fix whatever is wrong with me now...When you get a Doctor in Canada unless he/she has killed someone with a shotgun you keep them...Okay a bit of an exasperation...lol.... .Doctors are rare here. We can't just drop them willy nilly...Our system is different here then in the States...We don't have tons and tons of Doctors.....I have not seen him since 2006....My GP said I had to see him...He is an ass but he is the best at what he does here....So splitting hairs....Yes it is not my idea of a good time...but I have no choice but to see him......

In a week I will see a Doctor that felt that I was not worth his time because I was fat and obviously did not care about myself.....He never said that straight out but the comments that he made showed he had no interest in helping obese people....I kept pointing it out to my hubby but he could not see it..Until the time for surgery came and the Doctor did not want to do the procedure...He wanted me to stay on dangerous medication for the rest of my life.... I know he won't know me...but I know him....It really will be interesting how it goes this time

In a week I will see a Doctor that felt that I was not worth his time because I was fat and obviously did not care about myself.....He never said that straight out but the comments that he made showed he had no interest in helping obese people....I kept pointing it out to my hubby but he could not see it..Until the time for surgery came and the Doctor did not want to do the procedure...He wanted me to stay on dangerous medication for the rest of my life.... I know he won't know me...but I know him....It really will be interesting how it goes this time

Vitamins: I take Trader Joe's High Potency Chewable multi-Vitamin (double dose), plus an Iron supplement, B-12, vitamin D, and 1 calcium citrate petite. When I was on liquids, I took liquid Vitamins from Wellesse. ​Add to this magnesium, and Zinc...Zinc is a body healer and must be taken at three weeks on and three weeks off..I had 11 surgeries after my sleeve and Zinc has helped with all the healing....I take Biotin for my hair and skin and yogurt gel and a cranberry gel pill every day....Some times I take a probiotic gel because I have had issues after the sleeve and that has helped to deal with them.....

Vitamins: I take Trader Joe's High Potency Chewable multi-Vitamin (double dose), plus an Iron supplement, B-12, vitamin D, and 1 calcium citrate petite. When I was on liquids, I took liquid Vitamins from Wellesse. ​Add to this magnesium, and Zinc...Zinc is a body healer and must be taken at three weeks on and three weeks off..I had 11 surgeries after my sleeve and Zinc has helped with all the healing....I take Biotin for my hair and skin and yogurt gel and a cranberry gel pill every day....Some times I take a probiotic gel because I have had issues after the sleeve and that has helped to deal with them.....