Hi Chloe, First of all I hope no one is ever rude to you here What I did was before my surgery (you can still do this post surgery) was list the pros and cons regarding the surgery and weight loss. For me it came down to being healthier and living longer...I knew if I didn't do something, I was on my way to a heart attack, stroke, or some other medical trauma. Also, I listed all the activities I wanted to do, but could not because of my weight. (Whenever I get discouraged, I get this list out). At one, point, I also thought "I can do this on my own", but then had to ask myself "Why haven't I?"
I have two grandchildren and I want to be around to see them grow up and graduate and get married and start their own families.
The bottom line is ....each of us have our own personal reasons for having the surgery and each of us will have a different journey along the way...what works and motivates me, may not do the same for you...that doesn't mean either if us is "right" or "wrong", just different... and that's a beautiful; thing!