I completely understand how you feel. My family was 100 opposed to the surgery.They said it wouldn't work for me, it was the easy way out. That made it very difficult to go through with it, but I did! Best decision I ever made. You really have to pay attention to diet and excersise after, but you see results so you are able to stick with it. Once I committed, my family got on board and are all very happy for me. Do what you need to take care of yourself--you are worth it.