Hi! I'm new here too, not banded yet, but going for my consult on Friday.
I saw your thread and had to respond, because I've had a couple surgeries. I had my appendix removed in '07, and my gallbladder removed in '09. Appendix was done the old-fashioned (not laparoscopic) way, and the gallbladder was done laparoscopically.
Honestly, neither of them was that terrible! In both cases, the nurses were really helpful. I was able to speak with the surgeon beforehand. The nurses talked me through the whole process. And my husband was able to sit with me in the pre-op area while they were getting me ready.
As far as the needles, I highly recommend just looking away. Tell the nurse in advance that you don't want to see the needle! They deal with patients who are afraid of needles all the time, and they'll be nice!
The anesthesia is sort of a weird thing, because once you wake up, you realize that you don't really remember much before the surgery! So like, I was told that I was still conscious when they wheeled me into the OR, but I don't remember it at all! Not sure if that helps you at all, but it does for me.
The recovery isn't that bad. With my appendix, I've got an approx. 2.5" scar, and with the GB, I have four small scars. The large incision hurt a LOT more than the bunch of small ones!
Anyway, good luck, and I hope that helps!