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Woo hoo! Awesome NSV! For me after losing -70lbs my wedding ring no longer fits, it falls off. I have a crazy small ring finger (sz 5.5), and fear that when all is said and done I will be below a size 5. Not a bad problem to have, just sucky waiting to lose more so I can have my ring resized to fit.

"FTR- she is skinnier than when we married, not that it ever mattered to me." I forgot to mention that I'm in the same boat! My wedding dress was a size 24, and I'm currently wearing a size 14. Maybe a do-over (vow renewal and PICS too!) are in order when we both reach goal.

Nice to meet you too! I have always weighed less than my husband (sometimes not by much, in fact our surgery start weights were almost identical but he has 3 inches in height over me) and he has less fat than I did and is more muscular, in fact one time he told a former family dr. that he wanted to lose weight and she told him she thought he was fine (I think she was hitting on him... ) As I was getting wheeled into surgery, our dr. told me "it's good that you are going first" and I thought he was referencing the fact that I was being a guinea pig, but he was like "it's good because you will get a good headstart on him and he won't be able to pass you up (losing-wise)" and I think he is right, the ladies should go first, because nothing is more irriating than a man who just drops the weight overnight. Honestly though we both easily look 10 years younger...and feel like it too! Like you said, win-win!! He is working out a lot, and it's showing. He only writes his weight down once a month so at his 3 month post-op he was down over -40lbs. I'm happy and proud of him...I bet your wife feels the same about you!

Wow, that is cool! I log on caloriecount.about.com but I don't see how I can copy and paste my graph in here. I don't put my weight down in there everyday though...that would have been cool to see.

My hubby and I are both sleevers. We were both morbidly obese (my BMI was higher than his, mine 44ish and his hovered around 41) we have talked about doing WLS for a long time but were both hesitant to do bypass. Then finally in April 2010 I made the call to our insurance to get the ball rolling. I asked him to consider it as well. It took him a while, but he did finally decide that he wanted to do this as well. And I have to give him TONS of credit because I was originally going to do the band and he begged me to research the sleeve...once I learned about the sleeve, I knew it was the right surgery for me and ultimately for us. Due to insurance, I was sleeved Oct. 2010 and he wasn't sleeved until March 2011. But that worked out fine for us (it actually cost us more money as we have a high-deductible insurance plan and had met our ded. in 2010, but it was still worth every penny!) We very much have the "team" mentality. He has always been my biggest supporter and has never once said I was not attractive to him, no matter what I've weighed. My weight has been all over the place in the last 19 years that we have known each other, and we have been married for over 15 years. He always says I'm beautiful, has supported every diet I have ever been on (even the crazy ones), and never given me grief when I wanted to eat ice cream. In short he is and always has been my rock. I love seeing other couples who are doing this together! Thanks for starting this thread. Valentina...oh my goodness, that is so awful. I can't imagine someone being so low as to call someone in the hospital and tell them not to come home. I'm glad you are doing well, and you sound like you have such a positive mental attitude. I'm sorry that happened to you, but it sounds like you are going to come out stronger for it in the end.

What cool friend to have!

[Thought I would post a nice comment that I heard the other day. One of my friends knows about my WLS (she asked lots of questions because she and her hubby are both MO) and I told her all about what I eat, how much I exercise, etc. So I ran into her the other day and she said she and her hubby were talking about me and she said something to the effect of, "she has had to completely reorient her thinking about food and change her life and she works harder than anyone else I know to lose this weight!!!" I was like FINALLY someone gets it and doesn't think I'm taking the easy way out or 'cheating"!:lightbulb:

WOW, congrats you look terrific!!

I LOVE THIS!!!! Pardon me being nosy, but how did you get off all of your meds without seeing your PCP? Did your surgeon guide you on what to take and what not to take?

Labor Day is my vote!!! Inching closer... SN..............Starting Wt........Current.......Goal.......Lbs to Goal Mommy2Girls.....215.................204............197............7

Hum, that is pretty rude. I guess I can see someone "thinking" that but to actually say it outloud. Wow. Since she is your BFF, I guess maybe it would be worth talking about/exploring the underlying feelings there. If it was me (and I KNEW someone was going to say something like that to me) I would have responded with "did you just hear yourself? Are you that shallow?" but of course hindsight is 20/20 and you probably won't get the opportunity to go back and say that.

Girl, you look FANTASTIC!!! You are such an inspiration here to me and many others as well. You are most definitely rocking that sleeve!!! (Even if you have to 'baby' it for a few days, glad to hear things are settling better now...) Oh and you are right, taking pictures is SO much fun now...NO MORE HIDING!:camera: :behindsofa:

Oh my gosh that is a funny story! I agree, go buy some new things and maybe you can still mix and match so you don't scream 1989 with your clothing.

Hoping you are in recovery now, and sending you good thoughts and wishes for a speedy recovery!

Welcome! You will find a ton of information here! Good luck with your upcoming surgery... it is a big change but so worth the effort. My hubby and I are both sleeved...so glad to be on this journey together.

I had a 6 month required wait time before my insurance would approve my surgery. That being said, once it was approved I had surgery about 10 days later. :star: But I had done each and every single requirement from my insurance AND from my surgeon. So there was nothing left on the list to cross off AND he happened to have time. He did my surg. on a Fri which he normally doesn't like to do because you are in the hospital for a weekend and he typically takes the weekends off. But I only had to stay overnight and my nurse kept him updated. I was discharged by 11am on the Sat. after my Fri. am surgery.

Well, I had a great PCP, (who even though I had asked about bypass for a couple of years and he would always steer me in a diff. direction), who was 100% supportive when I went to him and said "I am having WLS, I need your approval, and BTW, here is a list of every single diet I have EVER been on and how much I weighed at the start, how much I lost during the diet, and how much I gained back after it was over." I think drs. like it when it shows that we have done our research and make our 'case.' He was more than happy to help me. That being said, I got sort of a 'surprised' when my OBGYN didn't make a fuss about me losing weight. SIde note here: Anyone who thinks that they can tell their various drs. about their surgery on their own terms, is mistaken. Any surgeon worth his/her salt will 'notify' each and every dr. that you see. So when I sat down with my OB he was looking at his notes in my chart and was like "what's this, did you have bariatric surgery?" Heh. No breaking it to him gently he had a big form that was faxed over from my surgeon. But it was all good. He had never heard of the VSG, but asked how much I had lost (at the time it was 60lbs) and he basically said "gee I never know what to say to people who have WLS...I think our society places too much emphasis on 'looks' anyway." I explained that it was more than that, it was about health and he did seem to acknowledge that. And then I got a half-hearted congrats. He certainly didn't gush over the fact that I had WLS...interesting since he had tried to push me to have my tubes tied when I was done having kids. I pushed DH to get snipped instead. Anyway, that is just my story. If you are finding that your PCP isn't willing to be your partner in this, you can do a couple of things. You can continue to see him/her and hope that they change their mind. If you don't need their medical okay and like the person, maybe you can see them after you are post op for a couple of months...it's hard to argue with the truth about lower BP, cholesterol, and a healthier weight, etc. Or you can find another dr. one that supports you in your decision to better your health.

WOW! I wondered what ever happened after your insurance wouldn't pay. That is GREAT that you are doing so well!!! Congrats on losing 91lbs in 6 months, that totally rocks! And it's also great that you haven't had any problems...sounds like everything worked out well. Nice to hear an update.

WOW! I can see a big difference in your smile. It was nice before but now it is just radiant! You look wonderful!

Oh I don't think you are wasting your tool, girl you have USED it and WORKED it, and I know you will continue to do so. I don't think I have ever seen your before pics...wow! You look amazing now! Remember this is a journey not a race (I have to repeat that to myself all the time. I get down about losing so slow, but I know I am doing everything right, I just happen to be a slow loser!) I agree it is easy to get down, but pull yourself up, and re-dedicate yourself to getting to goal. Yes, it might take a while, but slow and steady and you can do this! I'm not even that close to goal and I have already resigned myself to it taking a while, but that's okay. One step at a time, one bite at a time, one day at a time. Hugs.

You look wonderful, that blue dress is stunning on you! AND it also looks like you can join the Century Club...wow, that is an amazing accomplishment!!! Congratulations!

Okay, have a new comment! I saw another parent who I just know casually, she has kids that are different ages than mine and are different tracks (we go to school year-round so all the kids are assigned different "tracks" and we track on and track off throughout the year) but anyway, I don't know her well, and hadn't seen her for a long time. I think she meant this as a compliment: Her: "What kind of crack are you smoking?" Me: "What?" (Thoroughly confused!) Her: "What kind of crack are you smoking that has made you so skinny?" Me: "Aaaah, I wish it was THAT easy. It would easier than what I've been doing!" I smiled and kept on walking.

Congratulations! So if bad things always happen in 3's does that mean that good things do to? Maybe time to go buy a lottery ticket.

I think someone here at VST brought up a good point on this subject once. They said if the same person (who said you didn't need to lose anymore) saw you walking down the street at goal they would think NOTHING of it. They would probably consider you healthy. But since they have seen you and knew you when you were bigger, they are having a hard time reconciling the images of you in your past with what you are today. Don't worry about what other people think and do what YOU know is best for you. And come here to vent anytime you need.

If you want a healthy treat check out something from Eggface. http://theworldaccordingtoeggface.blogspot.com/2010/06/protein-ice-cream-birthday-cake.html <BR><BR>For me personally, I had a super small piece of cake on my birthday, and enjoyed it very much! Definitely make it about the birthday and NOT the food. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!