another lie

I am so upset today. Hubby said he was going to help me and support me if I do the lapband. I mentioned that I would like to start looking for an elipitcal exercise machine, maybe even a used one so that I could put it in the kitchen. He looked at me and said NO just go to the gym they have a great one on base. Ok if I was 135 pounds lighter (that would make me 140) and didn't have 2 9 year old girls to take care of that might work. I hate going to the gym and trying to do the machines next to a little twig in barely enough clothes to cover what a swim suit doesn't. Then there are all the young guys in the military who just make you feel even worse with their comments that they don't think you can hear. I finally have a house big enough to put some sort of excersice equipment in and not have to move furniture out. I liked using the eliptcal when my daughter was recovering from her car accident and feel that I would not get bored or tired of it for a while. I also like to watch DVD's and that would be no problem while here at home, plus I could still watch the girls or even do it after they go to bed, I am a night person. OK I just had to rant and this is my only outlet for now. I feel so betrayed by him. He says one thing and them undercuts me at every step. I may be one of those people that they say loose all the weight and leave an abusive person because you are no longer settling for seconds anymore. OK, I am done for today, the girls and I are off to price exercise machines. :cool:

good for you go get one its your house to and you are adding time to your life thats whats important besides he will like the outcome, if that even matters to you.

Do you and your husband ever have date night? I find that when my husband and I sit down at dinner out somewhere we tend to listen to each other more than we would at home. Or maybe take a walk just the two of you?

Have you explained to him how it makes you feel when you have to go to the gym and stand next to the skinnies? How would he feel? He must know how cruel some people can be. I did pilates with a bunch of Barbie dolls and these ladies can also be cruel. I'd cry when I left each day.

Don't forget to check out ebay and there are lots of used exercise stores!!

I hope all works out well for you.

Have you tried Craigslist? There's always some exercise equipment for cheap or since your husband is in the military there is a website for government workers that is a great source for equipment and everything else. I know your hubby said he's support you but many people do not understand what that means. Especially people who are fit, like most military personnel. Wine, him dine him and tell him what to say to you for support and how you NEED him to respond. Many people just don't get it. Love him anyway and look to others for your band support. Good luck!

Try the company named GYMSOURCE. They have a program for 12 month interest free financing. Came out to about $200.00 a month payments. I don't now your financial situation but I bought the Model 37e Octane Brand. Suppossedly Johnny Depp bought the same model ( like I care).

Go for it...get what YOU need to realize your goals. He sounds like a controller...I have one and it takes a lot of energy to deal with controllers...they are only out for their goals...not supporting yours