I Need Everyones Opinion....

Hi All,

Well i have a little dillema...:confused2:I am getting my band May 12th. I have ran into a speed bump though. My husbands 2 best friends are having a birthday party this saturday. Apparently i cant eat anything and i cant drink (alcohol):rolleyes2:...I would have loved to go but it just doesnt sound like ANY fun due to my issues. I told my husband this and he got all upset about it. :angry:I told him to go by himself and he said no, i want you to go...so i said okay ill go but i do NOT want to be there for very long. He got upset with that but dealt with it..i guess:glare:. So i am going to this party with 25yr old single men who are going to be getting drunk with their skinny rude girlfriends and they are going to be wondering hmmm why is victors wife not eating or drinking?:blushing: I dont want to tell them i am having WLS...maybe i dont want to tell them b/c i dont want to embarrass myself:sneaky:. (He doesnt want me to have the surgery bc he loves me not matter what even if i have 13 fingers:lol:). I really dont know what to tell them. Can anyone help me think of something to tell them...i dont want them to think im being rude and i just dont want to be around them.:biggrin: ( i really dont bc of my surgery)

Really confused and frustrated:incazzato:

Mandi Jo

Unfortunately it sound like to keep him happy that attending the party will be the best thing. If it was me, I would bring my own stuff and pretend to be drinking more than you are... Long Island Teas with no alcohol, etc. I would tell them you just went out for a huge meal before arriving too. Or hold your stomach and say "I dont feel good" and frown. I am not good a "white: lies.

I think the party is just a small part of the problem. If your husband isn't 100% supportative of your decision, you've got a LONG, BUMPY road ahead of you. How far can you go to be a healthy weight if your husband (your main source of strength) is truly unhappy and not supportative?

Hi Mandy Jo:

How important is your health to you and your husband?

Maybe you need to just show him by being determined

to become healthier! Afterall that is a pretty good reason

to me! Are there other family members there for you

for support right now? If so, let them know about your

surgery and what you want to do. It is always good

to have family in your corner!

Wish you the best!

Judie

I wish I would have stood up for my health at your age (judging by your pretty picture!) I am being banded at the end of May at the age of 58...and believe me there will always be parties and birthdays. You can do it after your banding as your will have a tool to work with. Just say no and take care of yourself in the meantime!! You all will be fine. Good for you taking care of yourself!!

ChristyC

Hi Mandi Jo,

To be honest, since it seems you have been following you pre-op diet well, it would probably be fine for you to have a couple drinks just for this one night...not to the point of being drunk, of course, but just to take the edge off. I don't want to be a bad influence or anything, but the again, my surgeon didn't press the alcohol issue very much. Regardless, you should do what you think is best for you. I wouldn't stress abt the party much tho, b/c you are abt to have a life-changing experience, so be excited!!