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The Confession

It has been many weeks since I decided to have WLS. However, it is only recently that I have decided to share this information with friends and family. The news has elicited some very unusual responses from people. My brother screamed at me. He refused to believe this surgery would help me lose weight. He told me I just need to stop eating crap. My best friend admitted she was envious of me. Another friend insisted I didn't need the surgery and that she would never do it. She then commented that our vacations to all-inclusive resorts would now be over.

 

I wished in these times that I never told anyone of my plans. The people who I know support me live many miles away and I don't get to speak to them often. My mother understands. My cousin understands. My best friend understands. I live in another country right now so communication with them is limited. I also believe the topic gets boring for everyone else but me.

 

I don't know who I will be after the surgery. So much of my time is spent enjoying life through food and drink. I now will have to redefine my life, my interests, and how handle myself in those situations. In many ways, I am looking forward to these changes. But I worry too. I don't want people to resent me or feel awkward around me.

 

10 days until surgery

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Katie713

LAP-BAND Patients

Ultimately we all have our own journey. Stay focused on what you want for yourself and as you get healthier, you will gain the benefits of your decision, both in your health and the way you look.

I've discussed my plans with those closest to me and so far I have not had any bad feedback, but if I do - I'm going to take it with a gain of salt. I'm doing this to save my life...and if I look better in the process, who's complaining? Certainly not me.

I still plan on being the foodie I am. But I may focus on making the most delicious little morsels I can create rather than filling up on empty fast food and giant meals. I can picture myself enjoying a small glass of wine with friends at times....and perhaps an entree of seared scallops over a asparagus puree.

Good luck. Hope all goes well.

MsKelly

LAP-BAND Patients

I am so overwhelmed and thankful for all of your responses. I appreciate the time you all took to share your wisdom.

I am having a going-away food party on Saturday. My friends are all bringing their favorite appetizers and cocktails and we are going to eat and drink to new beginnings. I am hoping as I walk to the end of this diving board my friends remain behind me as I take this plunge. But now I know I have this lovely website to lean on too. Thanks everyone!!

ladymacwhiz

LAP-BAND Patients

I knew I was going to get that response too from my family so,I didn't tell anyone until sunday before my wedesday surgery date..I didn't not want there negative opinion I just thought they should know in case they were looking for me..My husband and daughter were my support group.My friends had mixed emotions..But 3 months later and 50lbs lighter there very supportive...Not my family though ,but that's there hangup not mine...yea me!

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