Hi ScentsLady, I can comprehend just what you are saying,my hubby was ok with me getting the lapband because he thought it wasn't so bad and I would be able to bounce right back but the more research I did the worst he became,boy oh boy when I told him that I was gonna have the vertical sleeve done he acted like I had made this desision for him,,he had a fit...but I sat down and explained it all to him then I told him I am doing this for ME and ME only not for him..and to even to extend my life with him and my kids...so when I found out the days of the support groups I asked him to go to 1 with me and just so happened my youngest daughter and my husband went..I was so excited that they did go to meet people that has had the surgery so that they can see that they are still normal even after thay had the surgery...I think they really appericate it a lil more..the idea of me wanting to do this for my health and just wanted to include them in they were ok with my desision to have the sleeve...so when you go to the support group meeting invite them to go with you...if they dont want to go then its on them...atleast you tryed to include them......I say go for it because I am going to for my health....I know in your blog that you want to be health..so have fun ---take lots of pictures now and all the wat through your journey so you have something to reflect back on and say I DID IT......good luck and my prayers are with you...