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Day 4 Liquid Diet

My boyfriend and I got into a huge fight last night because he doesn't understand why I don't want to tell all our friends that I am having lap band surgery. He doesn't understand that I feel like it is no ones business but mine and I will tell who I want to tell and it is not his place to tell our friends what I am choosing for them not to know. He is worried that people are going to ask him questions on how I am losing weight and he is going to be forced to lie and he doesn't want to have to keep this secret. Honestly I think he is being utterly selfish but I kinda understand. I just don't want everyone judging me and watching what I am eating. Does anyone have any wisdom that they can share?

 

P.S. I had Campbell's French Onion Soup broth (drained out the onions) yesterday for dinner and it was delicious. It really helped to satisfy my craving some something savory.

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sarawray

LAP-BAND Patients

Why don't you just tell your boyfriend he don't have to lie. Just tell those who ask that you are just watching what you eat and eating like your supposed to. Small bites and eating slowly. I personally have told everyone I know, because I feel like it will make me be accountable, and more apt to go by the rules, because who wants to fail in front of people who all have something negative to say about it anyway. I wonder why people are so negative??? Uneducated about the subject I guess. Well, good luck,and hang in there.

nyangela426

LAP-BAND Patients

Why don't you just tell your boyfriend he don't have to lie. Just tell those who ask that you are just watching what you eat and eating like your supposed to. Small bites and eating slowly. I personally have told everyone I know, because I feel like it will make me be accountable, and more apt to go by the rules, because who wants to fail in front of people who all have something negative to say about it anyway. I wonder why people are so negative??? Uneducated about the subject I guess. Well, good luck,and hang in there.

Thanks for the advice

Boisvert

LAP-BAND Patients

I feel the same way. I only want to tell people I want to tell. People I can trust not to say anything and judge. People have a way of judging. It is your surgery and your decision as to who to tell and why. To me it is a private thing.

journey4me

LAP-BAND Patients

That's too bad that he wants you to tell. It is really your place to say anything. I know I told my bosses at work, but not the woman i work closest with. My bosses were very nice to keep it to themselves, not always the case. My boss had it done too but he had told everyone. I just didnt want to tell my closest co workers because we eat lunch together. I also don't want peole "watching" to see how I am doing. It's a personal journey and a personal choice. Maybe he see's it as a positive thing and wants to share the news. I agree with you though and I don't think anyone could understand unless you've done it. Has been great I would do it all over again in a minute, no regrets!

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