"we Don't Do Hand Holding"

Certainly you can hold some one's hand during this journey, but you have to do the walking. I think what was meant is that we need to be responsible for what happens and how we use this new opportunity that is presented to us. Support and encouragement, we all need it. But the actions are up to ourselves. No body can do it for you. You need to do it by yourself and for yourself, because you are worth it,

We all need someone to hold our hands now and again. When I first started this journey, I relied on this site to "hold" my hand. I found others who totally understood what was going on....and I didn't want my family to get overloaded with all of my Lapband talk. Lean on your fellow bandsters when you need it. They are here for you and know what you are going through. DiMarie made a good point though...when it comes down to it...we have to want it bad enough to make the right choices. Having said that..please know that all of us have had moments on this journey when we realize that we are still learning. I am now a year and 1/2 out and still learning. I know not to let myself get too hungry...or I will eat too fast and get something stuck. There are still time when I do this. Keep doing your best!

There's nothing wrong with wanting support while going through such a major stressful life decision. And it does take a lot of strength to admit that we can't always do everything on our own. I don't know how you feel about God, but He is always there to hold your hand when you need it. And there are plenty of people here going through similar experiences as you who would be willing to hold your virtual hand, myself included. Don't hesitate to send me a message if you need someone to talk to, I'm on here a lot. I will help you in any way I can.

You can do this. <3

If that's a potential weight loss surgeons office, they just did you a big favor. I'd get the heck out of there and never return. I've already been to 3 dr's offices and still searching for the right one.

This is too big a decision to handle lightly. Treat me even a little bad, and it's adiós.I'm a big girl and tough enough, but as a patient I deserve to be handled with kid gloves. We all do.

There is nothing at all wrong with needing support. As has been stated this is a big deal!! Bless your heart, sometimes the dr's office people lose sight of what they are there for. Which is to take care of you! I completely switched drs office because I felt they were rude and hateful to everyone. I live in a small town and it is convenient to see a local dr, but I gave that up and went to a bigger town because I was sick and tired of the rudeness, not always aimed at me, but at the elderly and most patients. Now this was not my surgeons office just a local Dr. who thinks his patients are nothing but dollars rushed through his office. I now have a doctor that is not only nice and caring, he takes time to joke with the patient and makes you feel he really cares. I hope that you find the right Doc and don't let the wrong ones wear on you! Good luck!!

My surgeon is married to my "weigh-in" doctor so when I meet with one doctor and they type in my comments to the computer, the other doctor can see it. I went over my food journal on one visit and totally did some calorie cheating. When my surgeon saw me on the next visit, to my surprise, he said something about it. Shocked, I looked at him and said "how did you find out about that?" He said, "because my wife and I care about you and you're not getting away with anything". So my response was "you mean you're not just working for me because I pay you to? You really CARE?" We both had a great laugh...and then he filled my band. LOL!