not being able to eat on a date.

Ok heres the deal ive had the LAP-BAND®® for alittle over two yrs now and had lost 116lbs. After beiveng in a bad car accident and having to have a spinal fusion my LAP-BAND®® was deflated and i have since gained back 17 lbs. I now weigh 198 and have been holding steady with no additional weight loss, for aprox 6 mnths. My problem is this I have finally started dating again, because i feel more comfortable with my size and i dont want to get my LAP-BAND®® tightented again because i always have problems keeping things down whenever i just sit down and try and have a meal. So basically when its tightened at all..... i cant eat like a normal person when i go out on a first date. Leading the guy to look on at me like im a weirdo. Ive tried explaining why i dont eat alot but then it seems to make things really akward if i just tell them unfront instead of waiting till i get to know them alittle more. I have recently joined a gym again and am trying to loose the remaining 49lbs by myself. But am i the only out there that feels self consious about this? :Dancing_wub: When my lapband is tightened it makes me dread going on dates, simply because most people want to go to dinner or something.

Suggest something else, other than dinner. Our society is focused on food, but one of the great things you can do now is take your focus off of it, and theirs as well by suggesting other fun first date ideas. Something active and pack lunch? Or Something fun and active where you can "snack" during it with a shared item or two like bowling so it's not obvious that you're not eating as much. Or a coffee date, or something other than "FOOD" good luck. I know it can be hard!

Do you get sick for a while after your adjustments? I am on my 4th adjustment and I have been sick for a week. I feel your pain, I hate to eat around people because I constantly get sick. The thing I can say about the dating thing is be honest. My boyfriend was very curious and now understands that eating is difficult if not painful at times for me so we do other things.