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Bandster Hell

I'm in bandster hell, and not in the usual way. Yeah, I've not lost an ounce since my surgery and, in fact, I've gained 8lbs but I'm not particularly concerned. Losing 31lbs in 31 days pre-op was not good for my body and I could use a little plateau time to regroup and get rehydrated. My bandster hell is my mother. I've tried to explain the whole thing to her multiple times, but the fact is that she's angry and she's not holding her temper back (does she ever?:mad2:) In her world, the fact I've had a band for almost a month and not lost any more weight is cause for great ire. I told her it had a slow start, but once it picks up momentum it will be all good but NOOOOO! She wants it NOW! Good lord, who is the child here? Maybe because she has her own food issues my not dropping weight like a rock is sending her into a tizzy, or maybe it's just one of those irrational mother things, but apparently I am to blame for her stress. Hey, I'm not the one who hides food in closets around the house and under beds. I have never consumed an entire pound of butter in one sitting. I am not going to take the blame on this one, work out your issues on your own mom.

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onikenbai

Gastric Bypass Patients

I'm in bandster hell, and not in the usual way. Yeah, I've not lost an ounce since my surgery and, in fact, I've gained 8lbs but I'm not particularly concerned. Losing 31lbs in 31 days pre-op was not good for my body and I could use a little plateau time to regroup and get rehydrated. My bandster hell is my mother. I've tried to explain the whole thing to her multiple times, but the fact is that she's angry and she's not holding her temper back (does she ever?:thumbup:) In her world, the fact I've had a band for almost a month and not lost any more weight is cause for great ire. I told her it had a slow start, but once it picks up momentum it will be all good but NOOOOO! She wants it NOW! Good lord, who is the child here? Maybe because she has her own food issues my not dropping weight like a rock is sending her into a tizzy, or maybe it's just one of those irrational mother things, but apparently I am to blame for her stress. Hey, I'm not the one who hides food in closets around the house and under beds. I have never consumed an entire pound of butter in one sitting. I am not going to take the blame on this one, work out your issues on your own mom.

kdee

LAP-BAND Patients

Remember you are not doing it for her.... YOU DID THIS FOR YOU!!!

Gorda123

LAP-BAND Patients

take a deep breath...cout to 10 if you have to. But remember that you are the one with the band not her. Im sure she wants the best for you and doesnt realize that loosing extra weight does not happen in a day, a week or a month. Just do what you need to do!

best of luck

karen46

LAP-BAND Patients

Congatulations on your banding. Do you live with your mother??? If not maybe you need to stay away from her until she accepts your banding. Maybe she is jealous, whatever the case is, it is not going to help you, you need positive feed not negative. Get yourself out of that situation if you can, pat yourself on the back and say good for me I did it. You go girl because you are a winner, you are on your way to a new and healthy life, as I am too. I am looking forward to this and my life afterwards. Keep me posted on you progress. I care.......

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