Hi everyone, I need some support and have no where else to turn. My boyfriend and I unexpectedly split tonight after living together for 2 years. We had been in a cycle of fighting off and on, not that bad, but I really didn't think it was worth throwing it all away over. I really thought we could work it out. He's done, he's made up his mind, its over. He said I knew it and he knew it. Well I didn't know it until today. Our anniversary is next month on Halloween. Halloween will never be the same anymore. I really don't know what to think or what to do, but its really over. We were planning for our engagement in February, we've been looking at rings.

I'm just so blown away, I've been crying all day trying to convince him its worth saving. His brother his picking him up in the morning and he's moving his stuff out - he's moving to Branson which is 4 hours away. I will never know anything about him after tomorrow. I don't have an address or phone number to even contact him at and he's ready to move on anyway. I have so many changes that I'm being faced with all at one time, I thought I was a strong person, but now I'm not so sure. I'm so bummed I don't even know what to do. I have a splitting headache and my eyes are all puffy. This is the worst feeling I've ever had I feel like I have no one I was ready to settle down and start a family - nothing will ever be like him. I've never felt I had truly been made love to until I met him. We had such a passionate relationship, not like any of my other relationships, I was so sure I had truly found my soul mate. I'm so sad, I don't even know what to write about anymore here And on top of that I haven't ate or drank anything today - I'm trying some chicken right now, but my band is being a fickle bitch too. I'm feel like I've just had a tight fill.

i am sooooo distraught at the thought of saying goodbye to him forever tomorrow. i want to be strong so his last site of me isn't bawling like a baby - but i don't know if i can do it. i'm losing the only man i've ever truly loved and there is not one thing i can do about it. why? i waited so long to be happy.....its been a fairy tale from the beginning even the night we met was only by fate itself. how am i going to do this tomorrow?? i can't, i don't want toooooooooooo let him goooooooooo

As the hours draw nearer, I'm losing it more by the second. I can't stop crying - I had to work tonight - i work night shifts in a 911 center and as the hours are coming closer to going home and having his brother pick him up - its getting worse. how am i going to do this? i love this man, i want to marry him. I know i've got to keep it together because i don't want his last image to be of me bawling and begging but i don't think i'm going to be able to. i know this is the end. i am so destryoed here how can I go on?

Candy, my heart breaks for you. There is no way to make this easy, BUT - most of us have had our hearts broken a time or two, and what they say is true - life goes on, and other wonderful opportunities present themselves.

Give yourself time to grieve, but don't focus on "forever" - don't keep a candle burning for him, but no one knows for sure what the future may bring. Being apart may be just the thing he needs to see that he can't live without you. OR, being apart may be just the thing YOU need to find someone even more perfect for you - someone you don't have to fight with to feel alive with.

Pamper yourself and surround yourself with your friends and family. It helps a lot to be distracted, and your heart will heal in spite of yourself.

Promise.

((hugs))

It's almost time now - to face one of the hardest things in my life. I'm going to try to maintain what little dignity I have in tact and tell him goodby and go ahead and leave before he does so I won't be there when he's packing his stuff up. I'm shaking so bad. I hope I don't break down and cause a big scene. How could he leave me? How could he do this to me? How do you do that to someone you've been in love with for 2 years and planning marriage and kids then bam - its F*ck you I'm done. I don't want to start over again. I feel like he's died............I am dying.

(((((((HUGS)))))))) for you Candy. I keep coming back for the play-by-play here. Keep posting. Let it all out. We are here for you!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so sad for you

Please know that we are all here for you if you need to talk. You are going through a very difficult time right now, but as everyone already said, it will get easier. When you go through a divorce/breakup you have to greive just like the person actually died. Once you get through that part, things will look better for you. I am a true believer that all things happen for a reason.

Hugs to you!

you will get through this, my husband of 15 yrs just left me recently and i was devastated, thought i would never be happy again boy was i wrong, ive never been happier. him leaving was the best thing for me, he was a weight holding me down, i feel free, you will see, give it some time, your life is going to blossom especially with your new body after weight loss

Broken hearts seem to hurt more than broken bones. Hugs, you will get through this. Please give yourself plenty of grief time, mourning relationships is everybit as important as morning other deaths.

Please listen to Donali, she is so right.

Oh my goodness I am so sorry. I know what heartbreak is and it takes times to stop hurting. Use your family, friends and us to lean on and vent to. You need to talk about it, you need to cry.

You know men and women think differently. Men don’t just decide to leave like that. Other things were going on in his head for a while now. He could have known he could not be everything you need him to be.

I see that you are 20, you are still young and there a lot of old geezers out there waiting for you.

Positive thought:

· As you are stressed as you see the weight coming off that will make you happy.

· Make a list of all the good and bad about him. I figured out my friend was a weekend drunk and poor, what do I need with that. That helped a little to let him go.

· It is a time to focus on you and your joy.

· liquid Tylenol will help you sleep and you won’t have a headache when you wake up and cold wash cloth under the eyes to take away the puffiness. Cucumbers work on the puffiness also. Maybe I’ll put some on my big belly. LOL

Love You Baby

Sorry you have to go through this. I have been in 2 long term relationships that went down the tubes and life was vicious afterwards.

You don't just lose a boyfriend at that time, you lose your best friend. But life does go on. Pull out your list of dreams that you two didn't share - travel, amusements parks, zoos, riding motorcycle (one that many of us bandsters enjoy) and find a way to make them part of your new life.

I remember crying sporadically for months and feeling that it was like a death and I was mourning the loss of the relationship and the person I had been in that relationship.

Keep your head up and post here when you need someone to 'talk' to. We are all here for you. Celeste

Hugs to You.. You will get through this even though it seems very hard right Now..

Take care

i am so destryoed here how can I go on?

You can go on !! Remember this, where one door closes a window of opportunity will open. PROMISE !!!!!

I was with this guy for over 2 years as well, thought we were getting married, we had issues too, broke up, got back, broke up, got back. All this heart break lead me to lose 150 big freaking pounds, I got my confidence back I didn't know it at the time but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I dated a few guys after that, knew exactly what I wanted.... found it and married it. Been married for 15+ years I have no doubt that you too will find peace and love in the near future. Hang on !!!

HUGS !!!

Well, Honey,

At least he had the balls to leave you BEFORE he found the 19 yr old skinny blonde... yep, it happened to me when I was 24. After 3.5 yrs you would think I deserved a little common courtesy - but no. At least your man is playing it up front.

Then, after crying and hating life for a while, I was standing on a corner talking to my friend who ran the hotdog stand at the University of Oregon. She introduced me to this big, sort of scary looking guy and I thought - Hmmmn. "This guy looks ripe to take my mind off of that weasel. I think I will take him for a spin around the bedroom." What a wild ride. All I was looking for was a quickie - and what I got was 16 yrs of wedded bliss.

You just never know. I know it hurts right now. It probably will for a while. Take your time, cry a lot. Vent a lot. Do something different. (I got a new apartment). Eventually it will work itsself out. ((((Hugs)))))

I thought - Hmmmn. "This guy looks ripe to take my mind off of that weasel. I think I will take him for a spin around the bedroom." What a wild ride. All I was looking for was a quickie - and what I got was 16 yrs of wedded bliss.

Oh you little hussy ROFL !!!!!

GOTTA LOVE THIS GIRL

Hey Candysmooch, you're hurting so much right now, I'm hurting too, sympathy pain. I'm very sorry for your pain and anguish. Listen girl, you can and will make it! I simply don't beleive in accidents or mistakes, but rather that everything happens for a reason. How many times have you looked back on even simple "mishaps" and realized if that had not happened that something really bad would have occured? I went through a painful breakup in the past, being left standing crying in a parking lot in a strange place while being 3 months pregnant. I was 16 and very scared. I ended up meeting my husband 2 years later and we are still married and happy. If I had stayed with my baby's father (he was 30) I would never have met my wonderful husband. You have been freed from this relationship for something much better. Let your time at work tonight be freedom from hurting. When you get off work and are home or in a place where you feel safe, let it all out honey, we are all here for you, don't be ashamed to hurt or to share your pain with others, most people are very compasionate and those who are not never got their needs met. Your needs will be met and later, you too will be helping others because you need to help to stay well. Please keep reaching out we will keep pulling you in, because you are very important.

Rose in Texas