Yes, I'm still new here and have not been banded yet - scheduled for Monday 8/10; but after reading a number of threads/posts I wonder why so many people are out to sabotage themselves?

Why nibble that piece of chicken when your Dr. says liquid only...

Falling off the wagon only hurts you and the outcome (success) you deserve.

Believe me, these few days of the pre-op liquid diet haven't been easy - I continue to remind myself that nothing worth having is ever easy.

I'm not judging - who am I to judge...

Yes, I want something crunchy to eat and

Yes, that Chinese food my husband ate last night was tempting and

Yes, I want things to eat now that never crossed my mind in the past and

Yes, I know that this is only the beginning and after surgery I'll be in band HELL as many of you have mentioned

But, the thought of finally being in good health and more importantly being able to have tremendous acrobatic sex :tongue2: with my husband outweighs the urge to cheat.

In addition, I have visions of wearing a 2-piece bathing suit next summer for the first time in over 20 years. :tt2: I owe this to myself, just as you all owe it to yourselves.

Edited August 5, 200916 yr by Cherishthepast
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I have fantasies of Brad Pitt. Is that cheating? Even found the nekkid pics of him from way back when he was with Gwyneth. Icky poo. I thinks I needs me an intervention.

Not to be tacky but on another post you said you were smoking...that's "cheating" too. It's hard.

I find you very interesting.

Well,lets all just try remember why we are all here in the first place..to lose weight and regain our health and self-esteem. We should by now all know what it is like to try and fail at dieting,to give up smoking etc. Life is tough!! Im sure we have all felt like we are no good and worthless if we cant even stick to a simple task of eating less.

I doubt anyone sets of on this banding journey to self-sabotage so they can feel even more worthless about themselves.

As the band journey progresses,there will be times when you eat something that you wish you hadnt-its not cheating for crying out loud-its hard to forget all the eating habits you have had for so many years and its a learning experience .

I come on this site to get encouragement and find out if otheres are going through the same problems I have experienced-and then also help others who feel like they are failing.

Please dont patronise others for struggling and admitting they are,we all need reasurance and advise at some point. I still find it hard to NOT eat icecream..or chocolate(I love it!) even though I know I shouldnt. I have great aftercare and a great support group,I know what I should be eating and also what I shouldnt(dont we all) its still so hard at times,no one is with you 24-7 when your will power may slip.

Good luck to everyone.I hope we all get the results we are after.Some may find it easier than others,but we are all in it for the same reason.

I don't believe that anyone begins this process with the intention to cheat the band or go against everything they have learned since being banded. I believe that everyone starts out truly wanting this and truly believing that they can make a change in their lives and begin the journey to healthier living. Everyday stresses with job, family and just plain living causes a person to want to revert back to their emotional habit of eating. If you read threads on this forum of people who are newly banded or waiting to be banded you can see and hear the excitment and new attitude in their posts and threads. If you read bandsters that have been banded for awhile you will read the reality of band life. They are quite a contrast. Not saying that they are not successful because a lot of them are but you will see that they have had many trials along the journey. In my opinion this is not a place for judgement but a place for help and support.

I don't mean to speak for Cherish, but I believe she was talking about the vital time right before and right after surgery.

I have to say, I agree with her. If one believes that the only thing that can save their lives or make them healthy is something as drastic as a surgery, then they choose to "cheat," to me they are not ready to commit to themselves.

I have "cheated" since being banded -- eating stuff I shouldn't. But I didn't do ANYthing that would hurt my ability to either get my surgery or would harm the outcome afterwards. If my doc said liquids only, that's all I had.

I'm sorry, but if somebody can't even commit to themselves for a couple short weeks, then they simply are not ready to do this and should be weeded out of the process.

Oh,okies then,this post has been moved to pre surgery.

Well I stuck to the pre-op diet of only liquids and gave up smoking too.I followed the Drs orders to the dot. :blushing: