Several weeks ago while I was at the gym one of the ladies, who I talk with frequently ask me how much I had lost and I told her about 60 pounds. There was an older man who I never talk to listening to the conversation and chimed in, "Wow, you must have been really big". I just gave him a "who are you look" and was like "Yes, I guess I was". Of course I was furious.

Then today he approached me to tell me that "I really didn't think you would stick with working out" and that "normally people as large as you just can't stay committed; try to stay motivated".

Can you believe this man? Who does he think he is? Why do people think they can say whatever they want. The worst part is: I think he believes he was giving me a compliment.

Anyone else have nasty people out there say mean things to them and embarrass you?

I think some of the more casual rude remarks are hard to take as well such as "Have you lost any weight yet"

or "Is that thing even working" after losing 25 pounds and people can't notice , that is discouraging too! I can't imagine asking such a loser question to someone I knew was struggling with their weight and going on this journey...how unsupportive! One of the ladies was even fat herself! ughhhhh...but I think, we are just a nicer, more sensitive group of people and this is clearly not our issue to fix.

I seem to have the opposite issue at GNC, I wish they knew more about bariatric surgeries and protein supplements etc...at least at the one I go to! I did ask the last time I went in there if there were a lot of bariatric patients coming in for the protein drinks and the girl said there were. I don't have a problem telling them that's why I'm there. Nancy

Ok so in all honesty unless the guy was waving his middle finger at you while he was talking he probably didn't mean to offend you. Infact he was probably trying to compliment you. No offense intended at all but why do so many people here get so offended over such harmless comments?

I'm inclined to agree with you. I think people say things without totally thinking them through. God knows I do, on occasion. I guess that I try to grant the same grace I hope others extend to me when I say something stupid.

Why bother getting offended about everything?