Ok, I posted this in the Men's Room asking their advice, but I think I need the ladies too.

My husband cheated on me the first couple of weeks we were dating, years ago. He came clean when we started getting serious and has not done it again, that I can tell. I had my suspicion about him back when we were first dating and they were confirmed when he admitted it. We've now been married nearly 4 years, and have two beautiful children.

Yesterday, I went to pick up my kids from daycare and their provider and I always chit chat. She made a joke about how my husband was text messaging her daughter (who also works at the daycare) the other night and asking how she liked living on her own now (she recently got her own place) and how she was doing? She said it as if I knew, and I played along. I went home and asked my husband and he really didn't have a good answer for me. Just that he was being nice because she takes care of our kids. HELLO! She's a twenty one year old, college student, that is skinny and blond and perfect!

I got banded two weeks ago and he has been acting strange ever since.

Do you think I should be suspicious?

Edited June 5, 200917 yr by savannahsmommie

Glad to know he was receptive.

And you're not beautiful... you're GORGEOUS! :ihih:

LMAO. Thank you. It has been a long time since I have looked in the mirror and was happy with myself. Hopefully, this journey will improve that self-image for me. :eek:

And take it from a Guy....Beth is right. You ARE gorgeous, and don't let your husband's casual flirting make you think otherwise.

And Savannah is gorgeous, too. Beautiful child. I love it when moms put up pictures of their babies.

Think of what you are doing now. You are going to begin a MASSIVE improvement in your health, energy, and vitality. You will be improving your life in a tremendous way, losing the weight, and i am certain you'll be able to sort out this little hiccup with Hubby.

Life's good, and it's getting better!

HH

I would say that if you are having to even ask this question then there is definately a reason and you believe he must be cheating..........your gut instinct is telling you something is out of sorts......a faithful husband should NOT be texting a 21 year old behind your back. NO exceptions!

Good luck, and I hope it turns out to be nothing.

and don't let your husband's casual flirting make you think otherwise.

Though I'm not quick to assume he is being unfaithful, I'm also not so quick to assume he's not. We don't know this is casual flirting, and frankly, even though I don't believe my husband is a cheater and we don't have trust or jealousy issues, if I found out he was secretly texting some 21-year-old hottie who lived behind us, there would be words.

She has concerns for a reason. And believe it or not, we women DO have a sixth sense about these things.

I think Headhunter made a good point. It's almost unimportant (.....almost....) if he's cheating, or flirting inappropriately. The real issue is that it's making S'sM uncomfortable. What may tell the tale is how he reacts from here on out. He should cease all communication ASAP now that she's made it known that she doesn't like it. If it keeps on....that's may very well be a dealbreaker.

Sweet heart you are a beautiful young lady, and when you reach your goal you will also have a level of confidence that you will never imagine. I don't know if he is cheating or not but I can for sure say he is thinking about it. He is probably also feeling scaried about your new self that you are working toward. Just stay back and observe with a close eye he will prove himself to you sooner or later.