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Hello all. I am new to this site and I am considering the lap-band surgery. I know there is a skinny girl in me somewhere. I am ready to find her. My husband is kind of scared and does not want me to have it.:wub: However I need to do this for me and I want to be there for my kids.:whatchutalkingabout I welcome any advice. Actually I am begging for advice:w00t:. Also if anyone knows a good doctor in Baton Rouge, La please let me know.

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Hello all. I am new to this site and I am considering the lap-band surgery. I know there is a skinny girl in me somewhere. I am ready to find her. My husband is kind of scared and does not want me to have it.:biggrin: However I need to do this for me and I want to be there for my kids.:biggrin: I welcome any advice. Actually I am begging for advice:w00t:. Also if anyone knows a good doctor in Baton Rouge, La please let me know.

Hi Pretty14yah,

I am also new to the site, but you have the same situation I had. My husband was also nervous about the surgery, so I took him to a information session and a support group with me. That way he was able to see for himself what was involved and to hear the positive comments from others in the support group involving the surgery. Just try bringing him with you and he can see people who have actually had the surgery, survived, and have good things to say about their experience.

Also, keep in mind he may have a fear that you will lose the weight and leave him. So have a little patience with him, but at the same time don't let that hinder what you need to do for your health and wellbeing.

Hi ladies! Welcome! I am still on the journey myself my bf has some concerns but I let him know I am doing this for my quality of life back pains, pain in my feet, being too tired to do things I use to like and I need the control I cannot seem to achieve on my own. So I understand fully! Keep researching and keep posting! There's great info on here!

Hey Ya'll,

Congrats on taking the first step in your weight loss journey, and what a journey it is. Much success to you, and welcome to the site, enjoy.

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Thank you for the welcome. I'm in on Optifast until Tuesday of next week, then I go onto the 2 day clear liquids and Friday 12/19 is my date. I just want to be on the other side of the operation, and begin the journey. Liquids are not as bad as I thought they would be, but I do miss the chewing:crying:.

Hi Pretty14yah,

I am also new to the site, but you have the same situation I had. My husband was also nervous about the surgery, so I took him to a information session and a support group with me. That way he was able to see for himself what was involved and to hear the positive comments from others in the support group involving the surgery. Just try bringing him with you and he can see people who have actually had the surgery, survived, and have good things to say about their experience.

Also, keep in mind he may have a fear that you will lose the weight and leave him. So have a little patience with him, but at the same time don't let that hinder what you need to do for your health and wellbeing.

Hi Inhishands and pretty14yah,

I too am new to this site and am currently researching a doctor to perform my surgery. I didnt even tell my husband I was thinking about this until last night, but had been thinking about it for years. He was pretty hurt that he felt I couldnt confide in him, but as we all know, talking to someone who has never had a weight problem your deepest feelings about being fat is not exactly easy. In anycase, he too is worried, but supports me 100% I showed him a siminar online thru the doctor I am leaning towards. His name is Dr. Enoch of Cary, NC You can look at the online video instead of going to the live siminar. In anycase I am totally sure that I want the lap band instead of the bypass. The bypass just seems too permanent and invasive and risky.

Our insurence is BCBS Federal, I hear they are pretty good in approving. I will let you all know soon hopefully if they approve me. Does anyone else have this insurance?

Hi Inhishands and pretty14yah,

I too am new to this site and am currently researching a doctor to perform my surgery. I didnt even tell my husband I was thinking about this until last night, but had been thinking about it for years. He was pretty hurt that he felt I couldnt confide in him, but as we all know, talking to someone who has never had a weight problem your deepest feelings about being fat is not exactly easy. In anycase, he too is worried, but supports me 100% I showed him a siminar online thru the doctor I am leaning towards. His name is Dr. Enoch of Cary, NC You can look at the online video instead of going to the live siminar. In anycase I am totally sure that I want the lap band instead of the bypass. The bypass just seems too permanent and invasive and risky.

Our insurence is BCBS Federal, I hear they are pretty good in approving. I will let you all know soon hopefully if they approve me. Does anyone else have this insurance?

Hi ItalianSoul,

Welcome!! I forgot to speak about the online videos. I found one and let my husband watch it and that helped overcome some of his fears.

I have BCBS of Delaware, my papers were fax into them on Monday and I'm waiting for approval. I already have a surgery date, I guess they kind of put the cart before the horse :wink2:. However, my surgeons office seems confident that I will be approved. I hope they are correct.

Do any of you have to pay any application fees, doctor visit fees, or fees for your year follow-up programs?

I researched Duke Bariatric Center and they wanted $250 just for the APPLICATION. I'm like...WHAT??? :scared2:They said it goes towards the facility, but COME ON. Made me wonder what other fees they would have thrown at me during the process. :rolleyes2:

Hello all. I am new to this site and I am considering the lap-band surgery. I know there is a skinny girl in me somewhere. I am ready to find her. My husband is kind of scared and does not want me to have it.:) However I need to do this for me and I want to be there for my kids.:thumbup: I welcome any advice. Actually I am begging for advice:w00t:. Also if anyone knows a good doctor in Baton Rouge, La please let me know.

hi

i just posted the exact same thing. my husband is nervous and doesn't want me to do it but i know it will be better in the long run. i guess once the surgery is over with no complications he will feel better. he went to the seminar with me and last night i pulled up a surgery but he said it grossed him out. we only looked at abt 2 mins. i wish i knew what to do to put him at ease but i just dont know. im hoping the ladies here that went through this can offer some advice to help us.:confused_smile:

Do any of you have to pay any application fees, doctor visit fees, or fees for your year follow-up programs?

I researched Duke Bariatric Center and they wanted $250 just for the APPLICATION. I'm like...WHAT??? :scared2:They said it goes towards the facility, but COME ON. Made me wonder what other fees they would have thrown at me during the process. :)

Yes, I had to pay a $550.00 fee to St. Francis Hospital's Bariatric Center, this covers my support group visits, and nutritionist follow-ups for the next 5 yrs. This had to be paid before surgery, but they told me this upfront. I also, have to pay my regular co-pays to the doctors when I see them, and for lab work.

Good for you for taking the first steps to a healthy you!! You should be ready to find her. Being unhealthy and OBESE is NOT ok...it took me too long to realize it! My husband was scared at first too...be he got over it, lol. I wanted this too bad and wasn't going to stop until I had it!! This was the best decision of my LIFE!

Please feel free to read my blog and go back to the beginning...I still tear up reading where I was and how far I have come. I am completely off of my high blood pressure meds and it feels GREAT! Good luck to you...I wish you the best and DO IT GIRL! You are worth it! :)

Hello Ladies,

I am also a newbie. I get banded on this Monday 12/22/08. I am a ball of emotions right now, thinking about anethesia, rice, so much stuff. I hope to look to all of you that have already been banded about the day to day difficulties.

Later for now

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Hello Ladies,

I am also a newbie. I get banded on this Monday 12/22/08. I am a ball of emotions right now, thinking about anethesia, rice, so much stuff. I hope to look to all of you that have already been banded about the day to day difficulties.

Later for now

Hey lady we were banded on the same day keep in touch I want to know how you are doing we can cheer each other on. Feel free to contact me any time.

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