hi all

I just found out that one of my friend has found out. about me having band. aparntly she has know some time I only see here the other day and she not mentioned it?

so do I drop myself in it and say who told you? as I only told a few people I THOUGHT I COULD TRUST? my own family dont no. well now im not to sure of that either?

Im not ashamed of band its just that I thought it was my private life and its up to me who I tell.

any thoughts

Ann x

Hi Ann,

I guess the grapevine works really well. This is big news to some people you have told and they could't keep it to themselves. If you ask your friend who told her, she may feel under some sort of pressure. I wouldn't bother. Don't get upset by it.

For my part, everyone who knows me has seen me lose weight over the last year and has asked how I did it, so I told them. No big deal. They know what I went though before I had the band - diets, pills etc. - and they know they weren't successful for me. They're just happy for me and very supportive.

If you felt that you should not tell your family that's your choice, but I guess that it's almost impossible to keep something like this quiet for any length of time. If I were you I'd tell everybody and if they have a problem with it, well that's their problem, not yours.

I think if anyone asks me if I have had a band fitted I would be honest and say yes, but I would never tell people. The only people in my life who know are my wife, mum and step father.

hi all

I just found out that one of my friend has found out. about me having band. aparntly she has know some time I only see here the other day and she not mentioned it?

so do I drop myself in it and say who told you? as I only told a few people I THOUGHT I COULD TRUST? my own family dont no. well now im not to sure of that either?

Im not ashamed of band its just that I thought it was my private life and its up to me who I tell.

any thoughts

Ann x

thanks for replys

I went into town yesterday. has someone say that someone else had said I bet she had surgery. then someone else commented on weight loss.

so looks like i might have to fess up. but only if they ask.

as when I was younger my dad always said if you don't ask you don't get.

so they can keep all wondering hehe!!!!!

its took me 1 year to lose 4 stone. so its not like its happened over night!!!!!!!!!

told the one who commented to my face that I have been swimming regually and walking more and biking.

as last year couldnt do these things as back was bad and was in wheelchair. so im extra determind to do it!!

excuse spelling

Ann x