Hello Everyone!

Okay, I am totally lost when it comes to meeting men. I have liked the same guy all throughout college, but I now know that he is gay. He's the only guy I have ever talked to. I'm moving to Philadelphia from CA for grad school, and I am excited about making some changes.

How do you guys meet people? Does anyone use dating sites? I spend a lot of time studying, and I really want to branch out and not be so lonely. I have no idea how to meet someone or how to talk to a guy. I know that confidene is important, but I'm pretty shy. Does anyone have any tips for me?

I have been married for six years now, but I met alot of my ex's and even my now hubby thru mutual friends. If you are moving to an area where you dont know anyone, I'd check the PA thread on LBT to see who you might meet and make friends with. Ya never know. :lovechoc:

I met my boyfriend at work. But i think getting involved in study groups can help you meet people. Or get involved in causes you believe in so you can meet men with similar interests.

Get active after you move and join a few clubs that have activities like hikes, etc. Maybe take a class or two at the gym that men are likely to take, like kick boxing. Join a singles group at church. Keep your eyes open at everyday locations like the book store or grocery store. I often start conversations by asking a question like, "Have you ever tried this Protein drink?" If he says a quick answer and walks away, he isn't interested. If he answers the question and stays to continue talking, he may be interested. If he stays to talk and you think he is cute, say, "I was just about to get some coffee/ice tea/water at Starbucks/Taco Bell/whatever is next door; would you like to join me?"

I've had confidence with men ever since the day I told myself that it is just as likely that people DO like me as it is that they DON'T like me. I try to be friendly and ask questions about THEM and try not to talk about me.

I don't recommend on-line dating for someone with little experience. There are some real losers out there. But no matter what, always stay safe and meet in public places, never get into a stranger's car, get his number first before you give out your's.

Good luck!