so today i am just having a hard time. this is my first "fat day" in a long time! i feel huge, i want to cry/scream/fight/sleep, i dont know. i am pretty sure i am pms'ing, so that explains it mostly.

i havent lost any thing for weeks. i know why. i havent been eating right. i guess i just need a kick in the butt to snap out of this funk i am in and get back on track.

i am now at the weight i was pretty much all through high-school. i have these weird feelings about getting smaller. i have never been there, so i dont know what to expect. it kinda scares me! i think alot of my problem is i have been sabotaging myself. i have upped my exercise, so i should be losing. but no, i choose to eat crap instead so i stay the same. how stupid is that?

someone please please kick some sense back into me!

I feel the same way. I have lost 20 since12/19 when I was banded. I have had 3 fills and I'm always still hungry and I gained 2 lbs. I don't know what to do? I need to get to the sweet spot so I can really loose.

HANG IN THERE YOU CAN DO IT! I understand, I recently hit a big slump! I was banded on 2/4 and wasn't pleased with my weight loss. The bulk of it was during the liquid stage (8 pre-surgery, 17 liquid stage, after that only 5 pounds in a month and a half). Then last week, had my 2nd fill and decided that I didn't have surgery for nothing, so I was going to work this thing! I began working out (which I hadn't done since surgery) and in the last week I've lost 4 pounds and am completely motivated! I got over my "fat days" by looking at pictures of me pre-surgery and said - "Hey, I'm looking good now !" then I look at my "skinny pictures" (from 15 years ago) and got motivated that I'm going to get there again! I share all that to say, you're not alone and YOU CAN DO IT!

Hey there....I know how you feel...being fat for so long, you tend to get comfortable with it..yet, really uncomfortable. Its really weird. You WANT so bad to be thin, healthy, "normal" ....but then you're afriad of changing into that person and fear losing yourself. So many reasons, being fat has been my excuse for not doing things. Not being social, not having sex with my husband, not doing this, not doing that.

What happens when im thin? What will be my excuse then?

So many times being fat has been my defense mechanism.

Maybe its all mental, and thats why you're not losing weight? It sounds weird but your mind can actually sabatoge you and make it so you wont reach your goal.

Start thinking about things more mentally...then maybe the weight will come off? make a pro and con list of staying fat. See that you'll have LOTS of cons and maybe that will get you to make better food choices...

Good luck

Hi there want so bad, it so difficult trying to balance out everything that comes with weight loss. There are many reasons that we all got bigger in the first place for some people it was protection for some it was not to be noticed have you though about maybe talking to a specialist? It's a massive life change we are all going through and that’s gonna take some time to right itself in your head. If you’re not comfortable speaking to someone perhaps you could get some of those self-help books????? Also try keeping a journal; you need to work out why you’re so worried about being thin to get passed it

Best of luck sweetie!

KiKi XX

I am right there with you! I was just banded 3/10/08 and lost 25 lbs before my first fill. My fill was on 4/15 and since then I have lost 5, but then gained 2 or 3 and then lost one....then gain, then lose! It is really starting to irritate me! I have now lost a total of 28 lbs. Only 3 lbs lost since I had my first fill 2 weeks ago??? What's up with that!?

At first I didn't think I was getting enough calories, so I increased them, but increased too much. Now I am trying to only have liquids and mushy food again... at dinner I make sure I eat my protein and for breakfast I have a slim-fast protein drink. Lunch has been either homemade soup or a side salad with reduced fat dressing. LOTS of water...I am walking 1 to 1.5 miles every night and doing way more yard work than I ever have!

I am going on Saturday and joining this new club in town and I am hiring myself a personal trainer! I should have done this years ago, but I think it's the only way now. I want and need to lose this weight. I'm sick of hearing "Oh, your face is so pretty." "When are you going to have babies?" "I heard you had the surgery? Have you lost a lot?"

UUUGGGGHHH!!! Here we go...........

hey--I was banded on 12/19/07. you have lost way more weight than me.. any suggestions?