Well, this has me t'd to no end. And just one of a list of reasons why I am having this done. Yesterday, while I was planting flowers, down my driveway. My neighbor, who just happens to also be my cousin, was talking to some guy, I didn't know. (I live in the country, so no privacy fence separates us. And I saw them all standing in the yard, as I was pushing a wheelbarrow down my driveway.) Anyway, I overheard the man ask my cousin who I was, and he was explaining to him, who my husband was. And then I heard this, "she's a big girl, huh?, from my cousin. " I was PO big time and still am. This neighbor, nor his wife, knows I am having this surgery. And I can't wait. Sorry, but I am so sure some of you have had days like this. But, what hurt the most was just hearing this, PERIOD!!!!! And no, I have health issues, that is the MAIN reason for the band, not this petty crap. There, it's off my chest now. I hope you all have a wonderful afternoon. D':rolleyes:

I would think about asking good ol' cuz what the heck his/her comment about my size had ANYTHING to do with their conversation!! Might want to remind him/her that FAMILY or not, you're still neighbors and therefore can usually hear across the property since there's no fence or anything, although maybe that can be changed! Don't know what your relationship is with your cousin/neighbor but if it's always been good and you thought you were friends as well, might make me think twice about how they really feel!

I've come to the decision that for the most part, I really hate people. I hate having to deal with them or interact with them. I like the internet where I can chose to talk to people or not, order things w/out having to deal with crowds or dumb drivers. I love to travel but we always go when it's off-season. The fewer people I have to deal with the better! "People" drive me nuts. I have little tolerance anymore! It's sad.

Sorry to take over your rant! Maybe bury a rock and pretend it's your cousin! :ohmy:

I am sure we have all had these kinds of comments. They hurt....really bad. These comments are something that stick with us. But, you are on the right track and will be able to prove to yourself (because you are the only one you have to impress) that you can lose the weight and get healthy. Just try to imagine yourself next year at this time planting your flowers down your driveway in a cute little pair of shorts.

I really feel for you. I know how you feel, I've been there. I was in a bar (in my single days) minding my own business and there were some guys hanging out at a table next to me - I heard one of them say to another, 'Hey, that fat girl is checking you out'..since I was the only heavy person within a hundred mile radius I got up went to the bar bough the "jerk" a beer and sweetly smiled. I told him, "I can lose this weight and look great, but you will always been an a**hole no matter what you do". He sat there with his mouth hanging open and his friends laughing at him. I was so p'd off. Hold your head up hun and remember there are always jerks in this life - I felt better giving that one a piece of my mind. Bottoms-up!

Hi KatsenD. Some people are really rude. It sounds like your cousin is insecure about themself and has to put the focus on some one else-You. Good luck with your surgery. You won't regret having it done. (Especially when the weight starts to come off and they start to notice the difference).

saleel22

Sorry you were hurt by that comment, people can be so insensitive. When you start losing, that will be the best revenge. Good luck with your surgery!