I think most of us had a dream or secret desire we wanted to do, but didn't because of our weight - either because physically we couldn't or emotionally we felt we couldn't.

For me it was acting. I desperately wanted to be an actor but always felt my weight was an issue. I'd been told I had serious talent but I never pursued it.

The other dream was working in hospitality. I've decided this one I can make come true after the op. I will be taking up an apprenticeship as a chef 6 months after my op.

So, what about you? What was the dream? What was the thing you couldn't do then but will now?

I know this isn't exactly the same as a life goal such as acting but I have been avoiding my HighSchool Reunions due to me weight but am now looking forward to going to the 25th reunion.

For me, I guess I'd say travel. I was an Air Force brat in my younger years. We lived overseas in a few different countries - but I was a child and I couldn't really see the incredibly opportunities I had.

As an adult, I'd love to travel to the places I once lived and to other places I still want to go. Being overweight, I can't travel comfortably and I am embarassed at the idea of possibly having to have two seats or a seatbelt extension.

My best friend and I have planned a trip for next year - we're going to Thailand. I am part Thai and I have not been back there since I was 2 or 3 years old. I cannot wait to go back to my mother's native homeland and experience the exotic side of life.

In addition, I really just want to be able to LIVE life. I've been overweight for about 10 years now. I wasn't able to enjoy most of my 20's due to my massive weight gain. I became a recluse and a wallflower.

I am *so* ready to live out loud and enjoy life to the fullest. :biggrin2:

I wanted to run.

I want to fall in love and be comfortable enough with myself to just let it take me where the wind blows.

Ok i know that sounds corny but its true. I have been in love before but I dont think I ever gave my all because of my weight and self image issues

It doesn't sound corny at all! I can understand exactly where you are coming from.