Oh men.

I have been fat all my life, and it has (in my opinion) really hurting my romantic life because I am AFRAID of being rejected, or being treated like the desperate fat girl, so I just stay away from men entirely.

I just sort of let the idea go, of being the girl that men wanted, I became the funny girl that hung around all the guys. The best friend you'll never want to date.

Now, here I am, on my way to being skinny, and I realize, I am LONELY. Its hard, all of the sudden, now that I am only semi invisible to men, its hard seeing them look at me. I am scared shitless of men. I dont know how to talk to them without instantly turning it into a friendship thing. I dont know how to act around them, and to make matters worse, my friend told me that I should 'dumb' myself down a little bit, because apparently, I'm intimidating?! When have I ever been intimidating!

I have a group of male bestfriends, and when they are single, I look after them, wax their brows, help them pick out clothes, things like that, it really freaked me out last night when I realized that all of these friends, they are sort of like pseudo boyfriends. I want a REAL one. I just have no idea how to meet men, none of my male friends will set me up with anyone they know, because they all have this protective big brother syndrom. I have a few female friends, but they seem to be in the same boat as I am.

I am so frustrated with myself. So, how does one go about meeting men, I am 26, a professional, I think pretty smart, and pretty funny. It shouldnt be THAT hard, right?

-A

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Oh man..I couldn't even begin to imagine dating again! lol. I am so fortunate that I have had a great man by my side this whole time!

BUT, I know what it's like. Before I was eligible to get the band, when I was like 16 or 17, I was casually dating a guy that ended up breaking up with me because he thought I was "too fat" and shouldn't wear skirts..and if I'd lose weight he'd go back out with me! He ACTUALLY said that to me!!!!!!

So GOODLUCK GUYS&GALS, that someone who doesn't care is out there, I've certainly met mine!!!!

My boyfriend is also in great shape. He actually runs cuz he likes it. How crazy is that, lol. We actually started dating about 2 months before my banding. So it's nice knowing he wasn't concerned about my weight. He thinks I'm beautiful no matter what. He's in the millitary so we only see each other every few weeks. He's always joking my weight loss is so dramatic it's like getting a new girl every few weeks. Lol

but that being said I go out with my girlfriends every few weeks. I live in a small city so you see the same people all the time. Now guys that I've seen out for years and never gave me a 2nd look when I was heavy hit on me all the time. And it may be juvenille but I take extreme pleasure in turning them all down. And yes I know we all have preferences( I'm short but I'm

a sucker for a tall guy) but the way a lot of men treat heavier girls can be plain out nasty. I consider myself to be attractive and I've got a great personality. But I can't count the number of times I've been passed up for a girl with no brains and a face like a horse just cuz she was thin. Sorry to rant but I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in. And ladies you are all beautiful already . You are gonna be smoking when you get to goal

My boyfriend is also in great shape. He actually runs cuz he likes it. How crazy is that, lol. We actually started dating about 2 months before my banding. So it's nice knowing he wasn't concerned about my weight. He thinks I'm beautiful no matter what. He's in the millitary so we only see each other every few weeks. He's always joking my weight loss is so dramatic it's like getting a new girl every few weeks. Lol

but that being said I go out with my girlfriends every few weeks. I live in a small city so you see the same people all the time. Now guys that I've seen out for years and never gave me a 2nd look when I was heavy hit on me all the time. And it may be juvenille but I take extreme pleasure in turning them all down. And yes I know we all have preferences( I'm short but I'm

a sucker for a tall guy) but the way a lot of men treat heavier girls can be plain out nasty. I consider myself to be attractive and I've got a great personality. But I can't count the number of times I've been passed up for a girl with no brains and a face like a horse just cuz she was thin. Sorry to rant but I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in. And ladies you are all beautiful already . You are gonna be smoking when you get to goal

Girl, I'm glad you posted this. Amen!! It is nice to turn them down now I bet. I'm a sucker for a tall guy too. Like you said we all have our physical preferences, but ou need to look past that sometimes too and don't be so rude about it!