To have 4 small children, and go through the banding surgery? WHAT IF something bad should happen? (death) The person is question has no comorbidities, and is able to excercise just fine.

Oh my god....I just read a thread that says Mom2bbb did in fact die a few weeks ago. This is really sad....and especially since she was feeling so guilty about doing it. I just cant help but feel so sad for her husband and children. Things like this really make me question my decision........

What? Oh my goodness! I am going to see if I can find that thread. How sad! She must have had something else going on...wow. I don't know what to say.

There's nothing yet to suggest it was band related. It's just terrible though. :wink_smile:

Well I am a dad but I can tell you honestly that living with my Mom for 16 years was a primary reason for me getting this surgery. I looked at her constant struggle with weight and realized that I better do something. I paid for my surgery myself and went from a 44 waist to a 35 inch waist and feeling great. It saddens me that my mom who is now 55 years old is going back to weight watchers for another round of counseling and over priced food. I told my Mom that as a gift I would get her the surgery and she wouldn't do it.

The short answer is do it and the make sure your kids don't follow your poor example of bad eating( I am assuming here). Make sure now that when you hit 60 years old your still not in the same boat you are in now. Don't let you kids walk that struggle with you for the next 20 years.

Oh my god, Someone please tell me that is not the case. I think I am going to be sick.

They don't know the reason for her death yet. Her husband isn't blaming the band. But yes it is sad that she is gone. May she RIP

I research and found the link from her husband. I stopped reading the minute I confirmed it to be true because I know the decision was weighing heavy on her mind.

I read this yesterday and didn't post anything because I didn't know what to say. I know he isn't blaming the band, but for me, that really doesn't matter. Fact is, she was starting a new, healthier life, and now she is gone. I have not been able to shake this. Did she somehow know that she was near the end??? Even if it turns out that it was band related, we all know that there is that risk. I love my band. This makes me more aware of how blessed I am with my band, my health, and my beautiful family. For you, mom2bbb, I will make the most of today, because that is really all I have....

I was really freaked out to read about what happened. She was having the same symptoms that I am, and my doctor just totally blew me off! I am glad that he posted her story because it really has inspired me to act instead of not finding another doctor!

So what I have learned from this is to not advise people on life altering decisions when you don't have a clue as to what you are talking about. I was just doing my usual chatting and didn't read all the post before commenting. I feel just horrible for those kids and even angrier at the outcome of her surgery. How did this happen and is the infection not a direct cause by the surgery itself? I didn't know this lady and never once responded to a posting of hers till today and I feel terrible. You could tell the dad did not want to create a huge uproar on this site and tried to stay objective but I know it still hurts to go back and read her words and her thoughts.

I can't help but to wonder if she did have some idea that something would go wrong. It makes me wonder if this is just a coincidence that I am reading this thread just one week before my surgery. Is this a warning?

Oh my word, I feel sick.

Where are you reading that she is gone? I can't find it.

Never mind, I found it :wink2:

My ex husband almost died in front of me from Septic Shock. He had an abscess, he thought it was just a pimple...three days later he fainted in the airport as we went home. We risked the flight home, took him straight to the hospital, they said another hour and he would have lost parts of his anatomy down there. He was very advanced and sickly all around his bloodstream. It was a vicious surgery to correct it and took months of healing. Septic shock is fast and furious and can be caused by the most innocuous things.

Also I really hope I don't sound insensitive here...I'm going to say this because I know some really sick people who would find it funny to put a site like ours in an uproar by "planting" this kind of urban legend to scare, confuse and demoralize people. I sincerely hope this isn't the case. Just crossed my mind, is all.

Spiritually, I believe we choose long before we get here what challenges we face, and we write into our blueprint when/where and how we go. We plan a couple of exit ramps for ourselves and take one when we're done learning. I realize this is kind of a weird thing to believe, but hopefully it at least explains why I am not as freaked out as some of you other sweethearts :/

But....Sometimes people do know when it's their time.

When it was time for me to be banded, I was terrified and didn't sleep all night. I had been convinced, you see, from age 14 that I would die before I was 30. Inexplicable fear. at 28/29 when I was banded, I really thought I was taking my life in my hands, that I knew my own death before it happened.

I decided I would rather risk death on an operating table than continue to live as miserable as I was. I hated my life. I did it and just left it up to whoever controlled these sorts of events. Complete surrender.

Aphrodite - only you will know what the right choice for you is. For me, the risk was worth the reward. I thank God every - single - solitary day for my life. My happy life.

OK final note...when I researched the band, I marched into Dr. Ren's office and asked her how many people died from this surgery or complications of this surgery. Under 1%. How many people died from bypass surgery? A lot more than 1%. Hundreds of people more.

It is a risk we take.