Ughhhh how do you deal with fat shaming post op?

I was standing outside and a car drove by and screamed at me "what are you a linebacker?!" In front of a bunch of people. We ignored it but it hurt pretty bad.. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I have so much self hatred that I'm trying to undo. I've lost a good amount of weight but I'm still big and very tall...feel so unfeminine.

I'm trying so hard to not let this get to me But I'm hurt. It felt like high school bullying. I'm wondering when ill reach the low 200s so I'll look "normal". I feel like I'm in this weird physical transitionary state. Before my surgery it was like I felt like I had to prove somehow that I was actively working on my weight. Now it's like I am, I had surgery and I work on weight loss without thinking about it and don't feel like I need to say anything but when someone calls me fat or makes a mean comment, it puts me back in that mental jail of being 330+ lbs. It so depressing. I don't know, it's weird. I know I'm fat but I'm also losing weight. I just want to be comfortable with myself regardless of what people say but damn it puts me in a bad place to be bullied while trying to hard to get healthy.

On 5/13/2022 at 5:43 PM, Robertchatman said:

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Edited May 16, 20224 yr by Daisypemberton

Dont forget this tho......it doesnt matter if your fat or thin, tall or short there will always be something a bully will pick from to cause a person grief. They may not like your hairstyle or the way you dress. There's always something they will find.....we have to learn to not sweat the small things. There are much more important things to focus on like celebrating the weight you have lost, planning your next big whatever a trip, a shopping spree or just something as simple as finding shoes to fit so you can walk more. Focus on you and the things that bring you happiness.

Dont worry so much about others nothing you can do about them except ignore them.

Live, Laugh and Love yourself, thats your goal ?

Edited May 16, 20224 yr by Crisscat

Hey there, I'm really sorry to hear that you had to go through such hurtful fat shaming. It's important to remember that your worth isn't determined by your size or appearance. You're on a journey towards better health and that's something to be proud of. Don't let the negativity of others bring you down.

So I have always been a big kid since maybe the 4th grade but I was never huge. I can still remember every fat comment that my friends said. I can honestly tell you I dont remember what people I didnt know said. But people I care about I remember them all. Honestly, my worst bully would have been my dad. Quick story. I use to be a gym rat power lifter in my yournger days and learned everything I could about building muscle mass. I guress since i was never going to be skinny I was going to be strong. Flash forward 25 years or so (I am 51) and my dad asked someone about how the best way to build muscles in his arms, The guy he was talking to was just naturally big. didnt work out to get that way and he was telling my dad some pretty basic useless info. So I started to talk about techniques for building muscle and my old man cut me off and told me if he needed info on how to eat big macs he would ask me.

Long story short, you cant control what other people do. Just know when people say crappy things its more of a reflection on their own insecurities and weakness. Also, the internet has made a culture of being able to say mean stuff without getting punched in the face. Im guessing most of these comments comes with the a hole having space and an exit plan. My favorite thing to do when people are like that is to get nose to nose when you can and ask them to repeat it. I have never one time done this and had them not back down. May be a little afressive on my part but I just hate this no accountability for running your mouth society we have created.

Outside of that you just have to let it go as someone who didnt get any love as a child trying to get attention. In short, screw that moron.

On 6/14/2023 at 3:51 AM, LeeYoung said:

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Surround yourself with positivity and focus on what truly makes you happy.
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