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Hi everyone,

just kind of a general question for everyone that’s dating post op. Do you find it difficult? Are potential partners receptive to you and your WLS?

have you had any negative experiences with loose skin in your relationship?

TIA!

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From a guys view: I am 54 and up until last week was single. I do not judge people by how they look or there weight. I actually just re married my x who is a large person. My view is this it is your life and a real person will not care about what little imperfections you may have.

I would not worry about it to much and you can get surgery if it bothers you. Look for a guy who wants a friend and companion, Not a roll in the rack and move on.

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I waited awhile before telling my (then) BF that I had been much larger and had had WLS. It wasn't any big deal to him.

My weight loss left me with significant loose skin, especially the "apron" which had my tummy hanging down to my upper thighs.

I was embarrassed greatly by my "apron" and always wore lingerie in bed to cover that part of my body.

I finally decided to get a Tummy Tuck 6 years after my WLS, even though I was not at my goal. My WLS surgeon and the plastic surgeon agreed that since I'd held my weight loss for so long that it would be fine to go ahead with the tummy tuck.

It was TRULY the best thing I've ever done for myself. My sense of self is completely different. I no longer have so much shame around this part of my body. When my BF broke up with me and I starting dating again, my WLS and tummy tuck made reentering the world of dating so much easier on my mindset. I had so much more confidence.

I know that should I find a new partner, I would at some point share that I had WLS. It is obvious I had plastics, because the scar from a tummy tuck is quite large and evident. So I would be open about that, too. I figure anyone worth developing a strong connection with will take this information with acceptance and even admiration for me.

Below, a current photo of my tummy. 90% of this is the tummy tuck, 10% of it is my core work that I do to keep my tummy flat and toned.

(I don't know why the photo is huge; sorry!)

yoga tummy.jpg

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