So i recently under went WLS where i only told a hand full of people who have been friends for a while, and in the same friendship group. (plus my parents)

I have a feeling that one of them is getting jealous of what's happening with changes.

She saying that I'm looking great now and that i should stop (4 weeks out and 13kg lost not even close to GW (where the doctors want me is still 5kg more than where i want to be)) and I am beyond worried that she will tell someone as she said tonight on snapchat 'oh i don't know why you're keeping it hidden it is bound to come out' to which i asked how would it come out and there was no reply.

She has mentioned before about how this is a short cut or that i have an advantage to being able to lose weight etc but at the same time i know that she is one to try the diets for a short period of time then stop - we were very alike with that sort of things and love for food but i was also more active than her and especially leading up to the banding.

just also a few things here and there

What would be the best way to deal with this - if there is any way i can deal with this

If anyone has experienced this? also with people finding out how that was??

Greatly appreciated.

All excellent advice, although This was something I should have kept from a few people, most have treated me pretty well. The person that told me " you should be ashamed you took the place of some younger and more deserving person on the surgery schedule" I only mention because that wounded me deeply, but hocus poacus ,the b**** is gone from my life forever, I worked darn hard at 72 to get surgery, so Bye Bye Felicia to YOU!

6 hours ago, Frustr8 said:

All excellent advice, although This was something I should have kept from a few people, most have treated me pretty well. The person that told me " you should be ashamed you took the place of some younger and more deserving person on the surgery schedule" I only mention because that wounded me deeply, but hocus poacus ,the b**** is gone from my life forever, I worked darn hard at 72 to get surgery, so Bye Bye Felicia to YOU!

BAHAH YAS BYE FELICIA!! and good on you don't you ever think you took it from someone younger there are many more days in a year they can book themselves in! I am at the stage where she is telling me that i am looking great now and don't need to lose any more (when i still cannot fit into clothes / boots yet which i want to be) so will still be working on myself for myself

it is slowly getting like that with the distance and digs hurting me so just trying to keep everything non food related (even tho she is telling me all about her natural diet she is doing on her own and working wonders) to which i am always giving support and motivation (and maybe reminding her when she's eating pizza about her amazing diet)

7 hours ago, Wendums said:

"She has mentioned before about how this is a short cut or that i have an advantage to being able to lose weight etc"

This is exactly how I looked at WLS before I considered it. Yah, I was dumb! It amazes me how often it's thought of as some sort of cheat! Haha like it's all one big competition. Well hopefully she will come to the realization that this surgery is a good thing for you and is helping you change your life.

Always remember that this surgery was right for you, and don't let anyone EVER take your success away from you.

I never thought of it as a cheat myself (or short cut) but when it was due to my hormones being out of control and PCOS just not helping me out this is what was needing to get myself regulated till i am having to have everything removed.

I don't think she will come to that realisation but you are so right it was for me and i have to embrace it!

Speak to her bluntly, tell her the the information is private and It’s not HER information to share. If you chose to let others know, you will. If she has a problem with you or the path you have taken, that’s on her.