I am set to have surgery in January/February for a gastric sleeve. Today my husband says hes not supportive and that I just gave up, that surgery will not fix my problems. Mind you I am an emotional eater, which I'm working on, but also have a sleugh of medical problems that by getting the weight off will help. I feel so hurt and now doubting whether I should go through with it. But, frankly I am tired of being overweight, tired of the aches and pains, and tired of not being able to do many tasks because I am physically unable to. Anybody experience something like this?

This was me. I made the decision about a year and a half ago, and my husband was not supportive. The exact words were, "Don't you just need to try harder?". I'll never forget that crushing moment. I can tell you exactly what room we were in, where we were sitting, etc. But I did it anyway. I told him, "I'm doing this with or without your support". And I did. I attended appointments and seminars and made insurance phone calls without his support (and even without his knowledge most of the time).

This summer I met all requirements and told him that my information was being submitted to insurance and I would likely have surgery this year. What a change. He could see how serious I was and did a 180. He wanted to help plan for the pre-op diet, for surgery day, and post-op care. He asked questions, watched videos, and wanted to attend pre-op appointments with me.

The freaking day of surgery he admitted that he didn't want me to do this because HE was scared. He was scared of surgical intervention and the risks associated with it. He never believed it was a bad idea, and never believed I hadn't tried other options (we've been married nearly 13 years- he has seen me try!). He was just scared and wished there was another way, for my sake. But when it came down to it, he didn't want me to go through this alone, and he wants me to be healthy. (He is normal weight, always has been, and doesn't have health problems.)

He has since been incredibly supportive. His lack of support greatly affected our marriage. It made me feel alone and concerned me for whether or not we'd end up another post-bariatric surgery divorce statistic. But we're back on track to our healthy marriage.

Maybe try to hear him out a bit. Keep going through the process, but keep the line of communication open. Wishing you the best of luck!!

So do you feel in your ❤of ❤that You gave up or simply found a new better option for your future? I would lean toward the latter MYSELF.

My hubby says he's with me, but in the same breath he's telling me he doesn't like it and doesn't support me. Bypass scheduled for December 10th.