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Hi there. I’m now 8 months post op. I had gastric bypass. I’ve lost 100lbs. Yay! So here’s the thing... I have lost all sexual arousal... I still have a good / decent sex drive, but I’ve lost almost all sensation.. anyone else experience this?? Not sure what’s up. Sorry to be inappropriate, but thought I’d ask...

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This is a really good question.

There was a post in “the girls room” forum a while back with people reporting increased sensation, fireworks etc. Not me - I am more your end of the scale but just a bit.

You might want to take a look in that forum for older threads on this subject too...

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This is a really good question.
There was a post in “the girls room” forum a while back with people reporting increased sensation, fireworks etc. Not me - I am more your end of the scale but just a bit.
You might want to take a look in that forum for older threads on this subject too...

Thanks for the insight


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Have your OB run some hormone blood test. The body changing definitely can alter hormones


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Have your OB run some hormone blood test. The body changing definitely can alter hormones




Okay. Good idea. I know my hormones seem more regular now since my periods are better now.. but I’ll have to check that out..


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On ‎05‎/‎14‎/‎2018 at 11:07 PM, SGirl35 said:

Hi there. I’m now 8 months post op. I had gastric bypass. I’ve lost 100lbs. Yay! So here’s the thing... I have lost all sexual arousal... I still have a good / decent sex drive, but I’ve lost almost all sensation.. anyone else experience this?? Not sure what’s up. Sorry to be inappropriate, but thought I’d ask...

Okay, forgive me while I try and explain this..... *MEN BEWARE* *GRAPHICS AHEAD*

I don't know the medical terms, but my pubic area, was always pretty fat. I always felt like it was very puffy. Now that I'm loosing, I feel like that area is getting smaller, and the "form" isn't the same. Sense it isn't your sex drive that has changed, I wonder if your vagina shape, size, form.. has changed enough to where you have to adjust. Things that once felt good (positions, ect.) maybe won't anymore or will take some adjustment.

food for thought!

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Okay, forgive me while I try and explain this..... *MEN BEWARE* *GRAPHICS AHEAD*
I don't know the medical terms, but my pubic area, was always pretty fat. I always felt like it was very puffy. Now that I'm loosing, I feel like that area is getting smaller, and the "form" isn't the same. Sense it isn't your sex drive that has changed, I wonder if your vagina shape, size, form.. has changed enough to where you have to adjust. Things that once felt good (positions, ect.) maybe won't anymore or will take some adjustment.
food for thought!

Wow! I first off love your blunt and honest opinion.. Yes, My region is absolutely leaner and it was also “fat” before.. however we have tried all positions.. foreplay... etc.. and nothing. But yeah- sex when you’re fat feels a million times better.. probably the hormones and fat differences... hoping I can find an answer to this one day.. cus it really sucks. Thanks again for your thoughts. I didn’t consider that..


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1 minute ago, SGirl35 said:


Wow! I first off love your blunt and honest opinion.. Yes, My region is absolutely leaner and it was also “fat” before.. however we have tried all positions.. foreplay... etc.. and nothing. But yeah- sex when you’re fat feels a million times better.. probably the hormones and fat differences... hoping I can find an answer to this one day.. cus it really sucks. Thanks again for your thoughts. I didn’t consider that..

I'm glad this is a safe place to discuss these things because there is so much that comes from having WLS and its good to have a sounding board. I hope things improve for you soon!

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I'm glad this is a safe place to discuss these things because there is so much that comes from having WLS and its good to have a sounding board. I hope things improve for you soon!

I agree. I am often weird about being too personal because I’ve seen really mean posts and comments. Lots comes with WLS.. it’s insane. Thanks hun


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Wait a minute...after my WLS sex will feel different??[emoji21]🤔🙂🙂 ANNNDDD the shape, sixe and form of my Yoni may change?

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Wait a minute...after my WLS sex will feel different??[emoji21][emoji848][emoji846][emoji846] ANNNDDD the shape, sixe and form of my Yoni may change?


Yes. Many people report an increase in pleasure. This is due further penetration and flexibility. But yes, your pubic area...could get smaller. Mine was always very pudgy.


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Yes. Many people report an increase in pleasure. This is due further penetration and flexibility. But yes, your pubic area...could get smaller. Mine was always very pudgy.



Oh ok. Yea I'm pudgy down there too...[emoji87]
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Lmao 🤣🤣 AshAsh1 sorry but that's funny. I have a FUPA (Fat Upper P***y Area) also it is very fluffy. I watched a few ladies on Youtube talk about body changes and that was one of them. After this surgery everything loses weight. Hmmm I forgot about that but thanks for the question now I have to check to see if mine losses the fatfat.

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Yes and yes.

Just a suggestion, ask your doc: sometimes taking wellbutrin (antidepressant) can stabilize PMS, AND increase sex drive. It is one of the antidepressants that is also easier to stop taking as well, little to no side effects. I take it seasonally for 'winter blues', but it jump starts the desire.

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12 hours ago, DippedInChocolate said:

Lmao 🤣🤣 AshAsh1 sorry but that's funny. I have a FUPA (Fat Upper P***y Area) also it is very fluffy.

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Love your description. LOL I might be taking that acronym.

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