Okay, I realize this isn't the end of the world but it still makes me sad.

I worked really hard to get to goal and I did it. Lost 103lbs in 10 months and two more pounds since then. My goal from Day #1 has been to be banded, lose weight, and have plastic surgery in less than a year, it's what kept me going. That's what kept me in check with calories, running, the works.

I was banded 12/6/06, lost weight, met goal, tummy tuck scheduled for 12/03. My goal, right? Everything in a year.

This type of plastic surgery carries more risk than banding, much more risk. Mortality stats are higher, potential complications are higher, rate of complications are higher. Because of all this I wanted my band surgeon IN the OR during surgery and he is sweet enough to comply with my request. While he couldn't do much to help the plastic surgeon *I* know he is a trauma surgeon and if a weird complication did happen I wanted him taking over my case. I wanted him calling the shots if I couldn't for any reason. He has the experience and skill to do so. Besides, I really really can't stand the plastic surgeon. He's a butthead. He is arrogant and I am blunt and to the point. The two really don't mix well.

I went to Mexicali today with a friend and talked to my bariatric (fat) surgeon. He explained that he won't be available for the time I'd need to be in Mexicali, he has to go out of town. I'd be in the hospital a minimum of two days and hotel for at least the remainder of a week.

There is a "thing" about having confidence in your doc and I do have that with my "fat" doc. I don't have it with my plastic surgeon. Yeah, the plastics guy is good and he is very skilled but he's still arrogant and I'm still blunt. It's not a great combo. The time is coming SOON when I will have to tell him how he is.

My "fat" doc asked me to put off the TT for a few days, at least. Due to scheduling he wants me to have the TT no earlier than 12/10/07. Yep, it's only a week but it blows my big huge goal of closing the "fat" chapter of my life in a year. Something I was really proud of.

I know, it's petty. But it's the petty stuff in life that bug me the most. Amazingly, the big stuff doesn't bother me much. :car:

M...

I know you are right. It sucks today, it won't make a bit of difference in the near future. I just want it DONE and DONE quickly.

I've never been a patient person.

Good luck, I am here for you, and I won't lie....I am majorly jelous!

im going to have to jump on that band wagon too ... just paint me green ...

M...

I know you are right. It sucks today, it won't make a bit of difference in the near future. I just want it DONE and DONE quickly.

I've never been a patient person.

just like we all want to be at goal last week ... you have done an amazing job and should be proud (as i am of you...) i think you are making a good decision to stick to your wishes of the fat doctor (heh) be with you during Sx...

just like we all want to be at goal last week ... you have done an amazing job and should be proud (as i am of you...) i think you are making a good decision to stick to your wishes of the fat doctor (heh) be with you during Sx...

I *just* hung up from talking to sissy (the sane one). I told her that I had a heart to heart with my fat surgeon last week and he explained WHY I can't break or fudge on the rules. I can't freak'en move for 15 days. I have to be in a damn ball from my waist up for 15 verrry long days.

I told her that my friends have offered to let me stay with them or they would stay with me. I don't want that, I want to go to sissy's house. She's cool with that, insisted on it, matter of fact.

So I'll have the surgery when I have it and stay with sissy.

I still wanted it in under a freak'en damn year! I'm not over it yet but working on it.

I have to be in a damn ball from my waist up for 15 verrry long days.

??? **confused** (which isnt difficult to do...)

??? **confused** (which isnt difficult to do...)

lol me either, but this I think is confusing all together, what do you mean ball?

And BTW Wasa--I am glad you are staying with the sane sissy! WOO HOO!!

??? **confused** (which isnt difficult to do...)

Heh... I guess I failed to mention that I have ADHD. I can't sit still for five minutes if my bloody life depended on it.

I swear, I need mega tranqs for this one.

I run circles around everyone else. I don't have cable TV because I can't sit still long enough to watch a single movie. I can't sit still, I'm like an ADHD kid that climbs the walls... only in adult version.

Hi Nina,

I empathise with your issue with the surgeon - I've changed doctors on a number of occasions when I haven't felt comfortable with them for one or another reason. I stopped going to one guy because he consistently kept me waiting for up to an hour and I thought it was highly inconsiderate especially as I had to get a babysitter in order to be there so I found someone else. At one time I had a female gynea who gave me the creeps for some reason - I just felt she enjoyed her work too much and she talked to me as though I was a child - stopped going to her too!

Thought I'd apply a little acronym to how you might rationalise your situation - it's the GROW method:

G - goal - what is your goal and why does it mean so much to you?

R - reality - consider the reality and how it is affecting you?

O - options - what options do you have to manage your situation?

W - will - do you have the will to manage your options so that you face your reality head on but still achieve your goal?

This might mean naff all to you but I find it good - it can make you take stock when you're faced with a difficult situation.

Hope it helps a bit.

cheers, Jude