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I’ve had my sleeve since my 26th birthday, I’ll be 30 in September! Ever since I revised my lap band to the sleeve everything has changed drastically. People started to look at me differently and not in just a friend way. I’ve been friend zoned pretty much my whole life, I can say with confidence that I have never truly been in a relationship. I always get the, “how is that possible!?” Believe me it is possible and has been this way my whole life. I’m not weird by any means, hahaha. My sister says I don’t realize when someone likes me and by that time the opportunity is gone.

I’m still trying to figure out this whole dating thing but unfortunately have gotten no where. I would love to have a connection with someone but haven’t been able to do so online. I have never brought up my surgery, I just don’t think it’s necessary unless we are out and I get the question “you aren’t hungry?”. Hahaha I was actually really hungry guy! But that guy will never get that, my family still struggles to get that little part of a life altering surgery.

If anyone is looking for a conversationalist, I’m your girl! I live in Seattle so meeting someone face to face would be lovely but having a pen pal doesn’t hurt either. I just would love to connect with someone who has had WLS of any kind because talking to guys that are only geared for one thing is getting old quickly.

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Your sister is likely correct. Had that same issue when I was younger. You can also place yourself in the f zone too.

My advice is to communicate more, be bold make a move here and there on a guy you're into. Work on your self esteem and, or confidence. Many of us dont really figure out dating. And many of the guys that are looking for more than one thing get labeled as nice and shoved aside for the semi charming jerk etc. Try to be patient as you look around for what is out there.

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