Jump to content
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Maybe I’ve been doing dating all wrong??

Recommended Posts


I’ve had my sleeve since my 26th birthday, I’ll be 30 in September! Ever since I revised my lap band to the sleeve everything has changed drastically. People started to look at me differently and not in just a friend way. I’ve been friend zoned pretty much my whole life, I can say with confidence that I have never truly been in a relationship. I always get the, “how is that possible!?” Believe me it is possible and has been this way my whole life. I’m not weird by any means, hahaha. My sister says I don’t realize when someone likes me and by that time the opportunity is gone.

I’m still trying to figure out this whole dating thing but unfortunately have gotten no where. I would love to have a connection with someone but haven’t been able to do so online. I have never brought up my surgery, I just don’t think it’s necessary unless we are out and I get the question “you aren’t hungry?”. Hahaha I was actually really hungry guy! But that guy will never get that, my family still struggles to get that little part of a life altering surgery.

If anyone is looking for a conversationalist, I’m your girl! I live in Seattle so meeting someone face to face would be lovely but having a pen pal doesn’t hurt either. I just would love to connect with someone who has had WLS of any kind because talking to guys that are only geared for one thing is getting old quickly.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites


Your sister is likely correct. Had that same issue when I was younger. You can also place yourself in the f zone too.

My advice is to communicate more, be bold make a move here and there on a guy you're into. Work on your self esteem and, or confidence. Many of us dont really figure out dating. And many of the guys that are looking for more than one thing get labeled as nice and shoved aside for the semi charming jerk etc. Try to be patient as you look around for what is out there.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Recent Topics

  • Most popular:

  • Recent Status Updates

    • allwet

      this one is interesting but a tough slog to get thru
      this review is easier to understand
      · 1 reply
      1. Orchids&Dragons

        It will be interesting to watch as this theory develops. Thanks for posting!

    • Jobber

      Feel like it's time for a status update, I haven't been on here regularly in a while and I need to keep my mindset focused on my goals.
      I haven't weighed myself in ~ 3 weeks.  I think I'm becoming the opposite of "obsessive" about tracking my progress and it could cause me some issues.  The good thing is that there have still been quite a number of NSV's happening that is telling me that I'm still progressing without knowing what the scale says.
      First one is that a belt I bought about 5 weeks ago because all my other belts were too big is also on the last hole so I'll have to buy yet another belt again.  second, I bought new jeans about a month ago and I have a lot more slack in the waist than I did when I purchased them.  I also boarded a plane and had about 8 inches of slack in the belt.  Finally, I hit my goal last week of being able to ride go-carts with my kids.  The last time I tried about 4 years ago, I had to leave because I couldn't fit in the harness.  This was sweet victory and I showed those two how it was done on the race course!!  😈
      · 1 reply
      1. FluffyChix


    • Krestel

      I just looked through all my old pants after my pre-op pants started getting to big. Keep in mind that I wear men's pants (usually cargos) because I am so tall 5'10"/5'11" ish. I also find that men's baggies tend to fit me better.
      I started out at a 44 in waist pant and quickly found that I was back down to my 42's. So even when thise got to be too big, I had to start pulling old clothes out of storage. After finding my 38's, I thought that these would not yet fit, but when I tried them on, they fit perfectly. I also found some older pants that now fit better than I remembered. What a relief! It's not like I can pop down to the store like I could do in the US and the styles here in Sweden are all skinnt jeans which I cant stand. I also found some 36's, but I'm not mentally ready to try those on yet. The biggest challenge will be buying women's clothing again. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • allwet

      slow and steady wins the race.  don't get discouraged and just keep at it. Let your sleeve do its job and try not to stress yourself out.
      hope you are all having a great summer and enjoying what your sleeve has given you.
      just got back from a wedding in OR. and man am i afraid to get on the scale  
      · 2 replies
      1. Orchids&Dragons

        Fascinating! Thank you!

      2. Krestel

        Great reminder about how fast you can lose weight. The mind games we play with ourselves are the worst.

    • TinaLeo  »  mombrown35

      I had ESG on July 1st down  15 lbs at weigh in July 11th
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Trending Topics

  • Together, we have lost...