So, I haven't felt very sexy in a while. Right before my surgery I had met somebody and had a short but extremely passionate relationship during the first few months of losing weight. Ever since, I have been focused on me. And this turned out to be wise, because I'm down 130 pounds and have traveled across the country in my RV, currently residing in beautiful Southern California. The first time in my life I've been able to out run anything: New York snow!

As it turns out, SoCAL might be the place I have been looking for all my life. Culturally, it seems wonderful. I am meeting so many cool and interesting people! Even men!

So, I'm under 200 pounds, getting attention from men, and considering stripping down and getting laid. And I'm scared to death! I feel so insecure about my body which is right now a work in progress. And I know that my hangups about my body are obviously not the same as the men who would like to have sex with me, but I want to feel confident and beautiful. I'm also so horny that I feel like a tiger pacing the cage LOL…

I still have more weight to lose and intend to have plastic surgery on my belly and my breasts. I did not expect this to happen/finish for at least a year. And I have no intention of waiting that long before I enjoy some much needed pleasure.

Sisters, what do you do to feel pretty and confident when your body is a work in progress?

Brothers, perhaps you can share some insight as well from your perspective? Some men say that women worry way too much about some of this.

Thank you in advance!

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From a guys Perspective

If a guy makes advances toward you then obviously you have Characteristics that he likes. Don't let your self-conscious thoughts stop you from being intimate. I have found that women that have been Bigger put a lot more effort into pleasing their partner than women that don't have to work as hard to attract a man. Honestly one of the few turn offs for me in the Bedroom is a woman that wont let her self go and enjoy the moment and instead is constantly wondering if i find her attractive. We all have body issues whenever I was in the Marines at 162lbs I still thought I was fat. I am going to give you the Ultimate thing to remember "Fake It Till You Make It" well don't Fake everything lol!!!

Great post

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From a male perspective, when the lights off, everything is hot and horny and about to burst. We (us men) don't care, so my advice to you. As long as you feel good about yourself nothing else matters.

It’s a mindset. You can lose all the weight you want and not feel confident. Especially when the weight loss is so quick, your mind doesn’t catch up as fast. I did get my breast fixed but no ticks or lifts. I still have insecurities.

Lucky guys!!!! My wife doesn't want to have sex she complains that it hurts now. I don't understand why? Has anyone had this problem? Her gyn checked her out and can't find anything wrong. It just doesn't make any sense. Hopefully I can get some answers. She said it feels like if you have a bruise on your body and you are constantly hitting is the feeling she is having while we're having sex . Anyobe have answers?
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My vagina kept spasming a couple months ago. It weekly I for about a month. I asked Google went and a lot of the answers were something called vagemitisitis or something similar. If you Google what I did you will probably find the correct word. Women with it have pain during penetration. There are things you can do like massaging and stretching it. I think sometimes it ends up being a looking term thing. Look it up, show her, then she should see a Dr because there are things they can do to help.

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I understand you so much! Like before being at 360 lb I was so confident for some reason. I wouldn't really care taking my clothes off and all that. But now, just 2 months after the surgery and having lost 60 lb since I started I feel so embarrassed, idk. It's just hard.. And yes, you still need some sugar! So I would just don't think too much about it and just enjoy

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