I really need to know how some of you got over your head issues with food.

I'm to the point where I'm almost hating my band and wishing I never had it done. Yet, it's not the band's fault, it's MINE for not getting my shit together. I can't even make it a week eating right.

Is there any advice (aside from therapy; nothing against it, I'm just looking for other types of advice also) for people like me?

Sorry wasabubblebutt I didn't see your post last night. Thank you for the inspiration. I am not being so hard on myself today and will go easy until my first fill and go from there. I will take one day at a time. This is proven to work as we can all read in this site. So I will relax a bit and baby those new tires for awhile.

Have a great day!!

I don't really know what to tell you. But, I do feel really bad that you are going through this. There are so many answers to your question, yet really there are none. Know what I mean? Everybody is different.

I was banded 3 weeks ago and I haven't really had any head issues yet. My best friend will be banded in November and we talk every day on the phone regarding HER head issues. Therapy has not worked for her either. This is what I told her, from a non-professional bandster.... :

1) Meal Planning. It totally helps me. If lunch time approaches and I don't know what I'm going to eat, I stare into the fridge blankly and see all the food that I CAN'T have and want to scream. So, now I meal plan. Just one week at a time. It's really fun and saves me money at the grocery store. It takes the question out what I will eat, and I now don't have to think about my meals 2 hours prior. It's freeing... REALLY!

2) Habits. It takes 6 weeks to create or break a habit. If you can't go one week without cheating, you need to rethink your stragity. Start with meal planning. Head down, and plow through 6 weeks and do what ever you have to do to not cheat. See what habits you've developed and broken.

3) Have an answer for everything. For me, I love food and wine, and actually have made a career out of it. That's what made me fat! I have a ton of critics at work (restaurant) and they ask me all the time stupid ass questions. But, I always have an answer to questions like, "But, you love oysters!" and "Want a bite of our new German chocolate cheese Cake" and "Hey, you want a beer, I'm buying"... I have an answer for everything and this helps me with peer pressure.

4) Support. You are in the right spot for support. This website has helped me so much with everything. Knowing that it's OK not to be perfect, but it's important that I try.

5) Remember why. Make a list of the top 10 reasons WHY you had lapband done. Post in on the wall in front of you toilet in your bathroom. That way you read it several times per day. It's a reminder. We need reminders. (Kinda like how children are a reminder of birth contorl! lol)

I hope this helps a little. Use the tools that your doctor gave you. Stay strong and develop your own way of doing things. Maybe my tools wont work for you, but maybe they gave you an idea or two how to develop your own key tools.

Well, gotta go. My kid is stuck in his toy! AAAAHHHHHHHHHH

Dana

For me the 8000 dollars i spent was a lot...... of.... money. I am ready and willing to do whatever i need to do . When i want to eat for no reason i stop and askmyself what is really going on.Am i bored? Am i lonely? do i just need something in my hands?I make myself a cup of green tea and think about it.I never used to do that. I just ate and ate. Donna

I don't really know what to tell you. But, I do feel really bad that you are going through this. There are so many answers to your question, yet really there are none. Know what I mean? Everybody is different.

I was banded 3 weeks ago and I haven't really had any head issues yet. My best friend will be banded in November and we talk every day on the phone regarding HER head issues. Therapy has not worked for her either. This is what I told her, from a non-professional bandster.... :

1) Meal Planning. It totally helps me. If lunch time approaches and I don't know what I'm going to eat, I stare into the fridge blankly and see all the food that I CAN'T have and want to scream. So, now I meal plan. Just one week at a time. It's really fun and saves me money at the grocery store. It takes the question out what I will eat, and I now don't have to think about my meals 2 hours prior. It's freeing... REALLY!

2) Habits. It takes 6 weeks to create or break a habit. If you can't go one week without cheating, you need to rethink your stragity. Start with meal planning. Head down, and plow through 6 weeks and do what ever you have to do to not cheat. See what habits you've developed and broken.

3) Have an answer for everything. For me, I love food and wine, and actually have made a career out of it. That's what made me fat! I have a ton of critics at work (restaurant) and they ask me all the time stupid ass questions. But, I always have an answer to questions like, "But, you love oysters!" and "Want a bite of our new German chocolate cheese Cake" and "Hey, you want a beer, I'm buying"... I have an answer for everything and this helps me with peer pressure.

4) Support. You are in the right spot for support. This website has helped me so much with everything. Knowing that it's OK not to be perfect, but it's important that I try.

5) Remember why. Make a list of the top 10 reasons WHY you had lapband done. Post in on the wall in front of you toilet in your bathroom. That way you read it several times per day. It's a reminder. We need reminders. (Kinda like how children are a reminder of birth contorl! lol)

I hope this helps a little. Use the tools that your doctor gave you. Stay strong and develop your own way of doing things. Maybe my tools wont work for you, but maybe they gave you an idea or two how to develop your own key tools.

Well, gotta go. My kid is stuck in his toy! AAAAHHHHHHHHHH

Dana

Dana...

I like this post and I like your ideas. I might just steal a few if that is okay. :car:

Hope the kid is unstuck now. HA!

For me the 8000 dollars i spent was a lot...... of.... money. I am ready and willing to do whatever i need to do . When i want to eat for no reason i stop and askmyself what is really going on.Am i bored? Am i lonely? do i just need something in my hands?I make myself a cup of green tea and think about it.I never used to do that. I just ate and ate. Donna

I figure out how much each pound cost me. In the beginning when I lost 8 pounds it was "about" $1,000/pound. I'm down to......:

$82.11 per pound!

YEA ME!!

WABB --

I love this idea!! I'm going to go figure mine out.

frog.

I'm down to $81.25. Still seems pricey, but I'll live with it!