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Rant: Obnoxious comments

I was visiting my family from out of town last weekend and my mom said "Wow, I cannot believe how much BETTER you look after losing 30 pounds! It's unbelievable! You look soooooooo good!!" To which I responded: "Geez, did I really look that bad before...?" To which my mother responded: "YES!!!!!"

My mom was shocked when I reacted poorly - I think she thought she was complimenting me but what I heard was "You were really a fat slob and looked like a wreck and losing weight will make you the loveable, valuable person you've never been as an obese person."

If your own mother thinks of you like that, what on earth does the REST of the world think? :wacko: Kind of shook my confidence. I've always thought I was reasonably attractive, dress nice, take care of my appearance, always clean and presentable...

I've only lost ~30 pounds so far. I cringe to think of what kinds of comments I'm going to get in the future as the weight continues to fall off.

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The comments your mom made sound like something my "second mom" would say. She's a sweet, wonderful woman, and normal quite tactful, but she can be rather "blunt" when it comes to weight comments.

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