I started a new job 3 months ago and work in an office with military and civilians. There are 6 of us in the office with management having their own office and the other 4 of us have cubicles in one large office My boss frequently brings in sweets from home and sits them on the desk on the other side of the room where the skinny military guys sit. Meanwhile, myself and another military guy (who struggles with his weight) sit on the other side of the room. Never has the boss offered us any of the stuff when he brings it in. I would not eat any of it if offered because I'm self conscious but I just think it's rude and quite frankly it hurts my feelings to be excluded.

I also saw the nutritionist earlier this week and she asked me why I don't just stop eating? Because I'm hungry. I wanted to ask her if she thought I liked being fat and discriminated against. My mom also says the same stuff. I finally realized that I've been passed over for promotions because of my weight. I've always accepted people for who they are and not what they look like or who they know. It just sucks to be treated a certain way.

Sorry for the pity party, it's been a long, tiring week.

@@Inner Surfer Girl

I never said I condone it, hell I was heavy, not fat but near my max weight in the Army. It was hell. I lost a lot of weight by starving myself. However a combat soldier looks at things through very different lenses. Given that so many of our vets served multiple combat tours, I imagine it is far worse today than when I was in back in Desert Storm.

I guess the distinction I am trying, and apparently failing to make, is that combat soldiers see things from a very different perspective.

As for your boss, he might just be an asshole. In fact there are a myriad of reasons for his behavior, I just heard the military aspect and decided to toss in my two cents.

I do hope and pray your situation get's better. I think we all know how hard discrimination due to weight can be.

But isn't it so ironic that the boss who treats overweight people horribly, is the one who keeps bringing in food for everyone? Is he trying to increase how many people he treats badly? lol

Excellent point!

Boss? Sounds like a pain, it happens and I've dealt with same. A couple of people at work, my Mom. They don't offer me anything or if they do it's a very small portion compared to everyone else. Makes me more self-conscious about my weight. I might not "need it" but that's my cross to bear. Hurts my feelings too, so I'm sorry you have to deal with insensitive a******. Truth be told, great big stomach, overweight people should get the biggest portion.

I'm sure, everybody here knows, fat folks are always safe targets for discrimination. Sucks. For all the love and kindness people bestow, there are always some that spread sorrow.

NUT? That is surprising from a professional. Mine was a skinny little man, but he was nice/understanding. Maybe he's afraid if he is crappy to big girls/guys, we'll eat him