Am I the only person that just doesn't tell the person I am interested in about my surgery? I had the lapband for five years and just had it revised to bypass. Dating has always been awkward and i dread dinner dates. I hate being stared at by the guy and asked why I am eating so slow or why I didn't eat so much. Or even worse when I had the band the constant running I the bathroom to "cough", up food. I was embarrassed of the weight I had gained that caused me to get the band in the first place and even more embarrassed when I still wasn't as skinny as I thought I should be.

I don't tell people I date. I didn't tell my last boyfriend and we were together for months. The nice thing about the sleeve is that the only person who needs to know you have it is you. I have zero intention of ever telling a romantic partner about my sleeve until we are at a very, very serious stage, if even then. It is my secret and whether or not I ever choose to share is entirely up to me. My three best friends are the only people who know and as far as I'm concerned, the only people who will ever know.

Also, if anyone comments about how much food you aren't eating, just say that you had a big lunch. Apparently people think I'm anorexic and/or bulimic since I can't eat much and periodically something will send me running, puking to the bathroom. Let them think what they want, I could give a crap less.