I've been gone for a whole after being told in December that "this surgery doesn't work for everyone and you are probably one of those". Hmmm.....have been in shock/anger/depression/more shock/more anger and just resolve that it was a waste of time. At least the surgeon was honest. What I believe needs tweaking is after care for those patients who do not do well and to assist them while their window is still open.

Ooops...did you guys shelve the unhappy patient link??? Disgruntled I think it was called??? It's a reality.

If anyone reads this please know I did things by the book except go to support groups because they meet at night and I have an ill spouse I cannot leave (his caregiver goes home at 5:00 PM).

I have my one year anniversary coming up this week. What a tremendous and devastating experience this has been.

Good luck to the others of you.

Findingme, tell us more about your surgery. Have you not lost any weight? Did you ever get any fills? Did you exercise? I'm so interested in your answers to these specific questions because I'm a new band patient and have always been concerned about long-term achievement.

I'm so sorry things haven't worked out for you but talk to us and let us know exactly what has happened. If you've already done so on another thread, I apologize but I haven't been a member that long of the forum.

Thanks so much.

Findingme, I don't believe your doctor should have put it that way. No question, lap-band surgery isn't right for everyone, but if in fact one uses it to eat less then one should lose weight, period. If that hasn't been your experience, take another look at all the elements of the equation. If in fact you ARE eating less and you are NOT losing weight, there may be something physiologically wrong with your metabolism.

Start from scratch and really examine your situation. What can you change? What can't you change? You can get all the support you need right here, so in-person groups are not a deal-breaker. But the old equation is true--eat less over time, exercise more over time, lose weight over time.

So what is going on?

Sorry this happened to you. My weight loss has been really slow as well. Do you have the correct restriction level?