Everyone in my church knew I was having gastric sleeve surgery. The first time I made it back after my surgery everyone was saying "you look like you've lost a lot of weight" When in reality, I hadn't lost but 2-3 lbs since the surgery. So pet peeve #1, the unwarranted comments about my weight. #2 is the constant question, how much have you lost so far? Really, I just saw you two days ago, this journey takes time. Its those people that haven't seen me for a while and comment on how good I look that make my heart sing!

This is kinda like a cross country road trip with a couple of kids. How much further? Are we there yet?

Thankfully, I have a sense of humor about this and I can face anything anyone throws at me! This surgery was an answer to a long time prayer. I knew I wouldn't be able to do this without God at my side and he has seen me through it all.

and I do appreciate my church family. I have gotten so much love, support and encouragement from them.

That's another reason I chose to only tell a select few. I was afraid they would feel the "need" to constantly compliment me, which would in turn lead me to doubts as to whether they're being truthful, or just saying it to make me feel better. And the other part was I didn't want a bunch of peripheral people making judgements on how fast I'm losing (or not losing), and my choices in diet.

I honestly believe your church group cares deeply about you and wants only the best for you, but ultimately this journey is 10% external and 90% internal. That's hard for people not going through it to understand.

They are also looking at my progress to see if it could work for them or the family.

My pet peeve.... In a restaurant;

Waiter: what can I get you to drink

Me: nothing thank you

Waiter: so you just want Water?

Me: no, nothing thanks

Waiter: you don't want anything to drink?

Me: no

Waiter: are you sure?

Me: yep sure

Finally my friend intervenes and looks at the waiter sympathetically and says "don't mind her darlin she is just weird. But we love her anyway." Lol

My pet peeve.... In a restaurant;

Waiter: what can I get you to drink

Me: nothing thank you

Waiter: so you just want water?

Me: no, nothing thanks

Waiter: you don't want anything to drink?

Me: no

Waiter: are you sure?

Me: yep sure

Finally my friend intervenes and looks at the waiter sympathetically and says "don't mind her darlin she is just weird. But we love her anyway." Lol

Is everything ok with your food?

Yes.

Are you sure?

Yes, thank you.

No, really. If you don't like it, we can make you something else.

It's fine, I'm just not very hungry.

Are you sure?

Yes.

Can I bring you something different?

...

...

<blank state> NO! ^%%*^ %%€}^!!

My pet peeve isn't about others, but about myself and they fact that I cannot drink as much as I want. I love ice Water (never a big soda fan) and want to consume plenty at once, and am frustrated that I can't. Or that if I take in too much at once that I feel sick after. I wish that this would get better over time, but from what I've heard it doesn't.