Hello every one I am post 3 years out and I am really disappointed with myself. I have gained 30 + pound and I never reached my goal. But this is not a woe is me party but I need help starting over and I just don't know where to start...Please if anyone can anyone help or give me some advice. I am 46 years old if that matters

I can't offer advice because I have yet to have the procedure. I can tell you that you are in the right place to get advice. I wish you the best!

disappointed with myself. gained 30 + pound and I never reached goal

@@Reynea

sorry this is very long - so long you can maybe drink your 64 oz now

hi there

don't dwell on the past

done and over with!!!!

can't change anything

you now need to only concentrate on the present and be excited about your future

i am here to give you encouragement and say good for you that you realize you must get back on the schtick!!

were you successful losing any weight?

when people go back to their old eating ways, its usually said to go back to basics with your Protein drink. drink lllllots of Water too

do you still have a nut you can speak with????

but you stopped seeing her??????

will insurance cover seeing nut at least a few more times

???

if not - can your pocketbook handle a few visits?? a couple of times???

i think that would be helpful

you took a big step by "showing" yourself here

asking for help and advice

that can/is hard to do

good for you

do you remember all the rules???

eat protein first

measure your food

keep track of any and everything you eat in MFP for example

water rules are extremely important

drink at least 64+ oz water a day

stop drinking about 1/2 hour before you eat

do not drink at all while you are eating

do not drink for 45-60 minutes after you eat

get minimal amount of carbs and sugar too

use small utensils, small plates

this will help "fool" you that you are eating more than you really are

put utensil down between bites

i was told to stop drinking any soda (diet too)

no more straws

coffee was limited at first for me

then i could have a little

but coffee rules are different all over the place

do what you were told, or told now by a nut

there are other rules too, my brain is too tired to remember right now

never compare yourself, weight loss, to others

you will lose at your own pace

you will probably have stalls

try not to let that get you too down - happens to the best of us (easier said than done)

take your measurements every 3 weeks or so

sometimes you might not have lost weight for awhile

but inches are going down (and so are your clothes sizes)

if you can get a nut - even for a brief time

listen only to YOUR Nut - what he/she tells you

all NUTS and docs give different advice

if their is a support group around

that would be great to go to

you are starting over

meeting others in your stage would be helpful

it would be nice to meet others in the same stage that you are

talk with post oppers too, they can help

i'm sorry you got off track, but you can find your way back

i know you can

My NUT/dr told me "eat til i'm full, then stop two bites earlier"

i don't know if or where your restriction is

i definitely would stop eating by the measurements of your food

don't trust the sleeve telling you to stop, not at this time

work hard with the sleeve, and the sleeve will work hard with you

i know you want to be successful

and i know you can be

ball is in your court - hit it out of the park

what do have to "loose"??

good luck

kathy

I'm still pre op so I can't give you any real advice. But I did want to offer my encouragement. I know you're feeling like a failure, but that is just not the case!

You've lost your way a bit that's all, but you came here, and we will all support you along the way. It is never too late! Forgive yourself first and foremost, and never give up.

You are so worth the wonderful road you have ahead of you!

Thanks to everyone here for giving me advice well thought advice and I am changing my thought process to I can do this and I have to do this. I think weighing often and starting back at the basics is a good start..Thank you guys for every thing..reynea

First of all, is your head in the right place to kick-start a program and stick with it? Without that, it's much harder. But since you're posting here, hopefully you've reached that place we all got to before our surgeries where we were ready to do anything and everything to get healthy. If so, here are a few sites you may find useful:

First off, here's a site that describes the top 10 bariatric mistakes. You may find your own situation in several of the categories. This will show you that you're not alone in making these mistakes, and suggest changes you need to make to overcome them.

http://www.bariatriceating.com/2015/03/02/top-10-bariatric-post-op-mistakes/

Next, here's a site that many people have used to "reset" their pouches and sleeves in order to feel the restriction again. There's a book you can buy on the website, but from what I can tell, all the info is there for free if you look around. This could be a powerful tool to help you start over!

http://www.5daypouchtest.com/index.html

And finally, if you need a refresher course on the rules of Bariatric Eating, here's a site that provides a ton of answers. You'll probably be most interested in Steps 9 and 10, but reading through the rest can remind you where you came from. Maybe by doing the 5-day pouch test and pretending that you just had a new surgery, you can feel like you're getting a fresh start.

http://www.bariatric-surgery-source.com/

Hope you find these sites to be helpful, and I wish you great success in the next leg of your journey to good health!!!

How are you doing now?