I'm a little sad to see so little activity in this group. I was really hoping to find gay men who could understand what I'm going through. Especially if being a part of the chub/chaser/bear community. Hope it picks up.

I'd love to talk to all of you on this thread. I'm pre surgery and really need some support from any fellow bears who did this.

Hi CincyDave. I can totally understand where you're coming from. Talking definitely helps, especially when it's with people in similar social situations. I'm just over 4 months post op. Any questions you have, feel free to ask. I'd be more than happy to do what I can.

I forgot to come back here. The day of my pre-op, they got it all straightened out. I was sleeved on August 19th. I've already lost 40 lbs. everything seemed to move so quickly. It was the day before first day of school so I called a sub for the first week and a half. Then my graduate classes started. I'd join the Facebook group but I don't care to talk to lesbians about bear issues.

There is also a men's Facebook group tuba!

Find me on Facebook and I can invite you. Rgodfrey09@gmail.com

What's the FB group? I'm interested