I am telling very few people about my surgery because for some reason I am worried about what they will think of me. I found out that my wife told some people (work, friends, her family) when I haven't even told my dad! When I told her I wanted to be in control of who knows she got upset at me! Am I just being unreasonable?

She is supportive and is even doing the preop diet with me. I don't want to lose her support but I feel like I need this control right now.

I had the same thing happen to me. I wanted to be the one to tell people on my terms. My husband ended up spilling the beans to my in-laws, Who I don't even get along with. Part of that reason is because they can't keep their mouths shut and talk about everyone's problems behind their back. I cried about it and was very upset with my husband because I told him that those were the only two people I didn't want to tell. Which I made very clear before he even told them. And if I ever decided to tell them I wanted to be the one to do it. I'm over it now but it was very upsetting. My grandmother told me that they're going to talk about me no matter what so just to let it roll off my shoulders.

I'm sure your wife meant no harm, but the bottom line is that this is your journey and no one else's. I'm also being very selective on who I tell. The last thing I need to worry about post op is the judging stare of anonymous eyes all measuring my success or waiting for me to fail. I didn't make a point of making an announcement every time I went on a diet, and I see this as no different. It's nobody's business but my own.

I told only my son and my husband. I haven't told my daughter because when I mentioned WLS to her she stated it was cheating. She is 17 and in college so she is oblivious. When I told her I was going in for sugery on my esophagus because of a stricture she suggested I leave it alone because it made me lose weight. Swallowing water hurt and food was a no no. She seems to think that if I just stop eating and go to the gym I will be skinny. Otherwise I have on told my husband. I am tired of my weight making the choices for me.

I agree with the above statement it is your decision if you want to share this information because it is a private one .