I received "the call" today telling me I had been approved and we started discussing dates. I need to have surgery on a Monday or Thursday or Friday because my husband works in another state Monday-Thursday every week and I want him to miss the least amount of work possible (he wants to be here for the surgery but my Mom is coming in town for the rest of the recovery).

So...Monday 9/29 was the next date my surgeon has open.

I was so excited because something I have been working so hard towards is finally an actual date now not just some imaginary day in the future!

Then I went in my boss's office to tell her the date and that I was taking a week off and she said that was fine. I was thrilled because I work in a financial position at a university and our fiscal year ends on 9/30 and I was afraid she'd say no because of that being our busiest time of the year. Then, while we were talking she looked at the calendar and decided because we have 3 people who will be out of the office on the day I return to the office, that it wouldn't be a good time for me to be just coming back from surgery. It doesn't really make sense to me, if I am back in the office why does it matter if I am just coming back from surgery? And the thing that irritates me most of all is that the 2 people who I am the back up for aren't even the ones who will be out of the office that day. So it really makes no sense to me but it looks like I might have to wait until October 27th which is the next date he has open on his Monday schedule.

She said she would let me know something next week. I asked her if she could tell me Monday because I still have some pre-op stuff to schedule and my Mom has to schedule coming in from out of town.

So I'm happy and stressed at the same time!

I received "the call" today telling me I had been approved and we started discussing dates. I need to have surgery on a Monday or Thursday or Friday because my husband works in another state Monday-Thursday every week and I want him to miss the least amount of work possible (he wants to be here for the surgery but my Mom is coming in town for the rest of the recovery).

So...Monday 9/29 was the next date my surgeon has open.

I was so excited because something I have been working so hard towards is finally an actual date now not just some imaginary day in the future!

Then I went in my boss's office to tell her the date and that I was taking a week off and she said that was fine. I was thrilled because I work in a financial position at a university and our fiscal year ends on 9/30 and I was afraid she'd say no because of that being our busiest time of the year. Then, while we were talking she looked at the calendar and decided because we have 3 people who will be out of the office on the day I return to the office, that it wouldn't be a good time for me to be just coming back from surgery. It doesn't really make sense to me, if I am back in the office why does it matter if I am just coming back from surgery? And the thing that irritates me most of all is that the 2 people who I am the back up for aren't even the ones who will be out of the office that day. So it really makes no sense to me but it looks like I might have to wait until October 27th which is the next date he has open on his Monday schedule.

She said she would let me know something next week. I asked her if she could tell me Monday because I still have some prean b-op stuff to schedule and my Mom has to schedule coming in from out of town.

So I'm happy and stressed at the same time!

Yes I can understand how frustrating this could be for you. It sounds like she is trying to sabotage your weight loss efforts starting with the surgery. You might want to take a more assertive stance and rather than asking for days off, inform her of the surgery date and the days you will be taking sick leave. Don't tell her there are alternative dates for anything or she'll want to take control. People like that have control issues and will highjack your surgery plans if you let her, by telling you when you can have surgery and when you can take off etc. All of us can be replaced at any time in our jobs regardless of how competent we may be so if you are off at the end of September.... she can find someone to do your work. Let her know that the week you choose is the only one that works for you since your mom is coming to take care of you etc... Stand up for yourself. I bet If she was having surgery she wouldn't postpone it for office reasons.

I agree. It's a medical procedure not a vacation. If necessary go to HR. I would not give any more info than the date of the surgery. You're giving them plenty of warning. Why should you delay and foul up your mother's plans to be there. Especially if you don't have any previous issues that would endanger your job.

She finally approved my time off request. At first she denied the time for request off and then she came to me yesterday and asked if it was too late for me to schedule for 9/29. Thankfully I haven't been able to get in touch with the surgery scheduler so I was still on the surgeon's books for 9/29.

So, in less than 2 weeks I will have surgery! Woohoo!

Edited September 17, 201411 yr by Amyly2n

Good for you!