Revised expectations--can it be okay?

[Oak Park Lorena 162]

So, I started out wanting to get down from my 265 to 160 and then to 145. I had visions of skinny-dom flashing in my head.

Here I am now, just over 9 months out. I've "only" lost 86 pounds (my ticker says I started at 254, but it was really 265 because I managed to gain 11 pounds between my first appointment with the surgeon and the day I had to start the pre-op diet!). I'm still technically "obese" according to the BMI gods. But I'm a size 10/12 now. I was a 20/22 before, though I squished into 18s to delude myself into believing I wasn't really big! I'm running now, over 25 miles a week. I run up stairs. I go to the store and can try on "normal" size clothes. I can walk in the 90 degree heat in a skirt without having lube my thighs up so that they don't chaff. I'm still technically "fat," but I have to say, I'm kind of happy where I am. Even with a bit saggy skin here and there, I have to say I look damn sexy, even naked! My health stats--cholesterol, BP, inflammation--all stellar, A+.

So, what's the problem, you ask? I'm having a hard time letting go of the idea of getting down to that weight, that skinny person weight. Don't get me wrong, I am not at ALL disappointed with my results, it's been life-changing and wonderful and I have no regrets--none.

So, I'm thinking of modifying my goal weight, maybe 175, get down 4 more pounds and call it a day. Anyone else in the same boat? Did you revise and smile? Am I giving up too easily? Tell me your story!

[marfar7 1,528]

I did. My goal weight was 130. A few months ago, I thought it might motivate me more to lose 12 lbs instead of 22 and change it to 140.

While I now wear a size 8 jeans (started at a 22), I still feel "fat". I still see rolls, fat, and still an XL on top (Swedish genes, I guess), but my goal is still 140.

I recently gained a few lbs (instead of motivating me, it made me more comfy with being "almost there" and slacking a bit. I'm now 15 from goal.

I will get there. So will u. Even if u feel the desire to alter ur goal. It's totally up to u. If u feel comfortable, I say embrace it and be comfortable. Ull still need to do the same things to maintain as u did to lose, however, so don't ever get too comfortable...

Good luck!