I am scheduled for surgery on June 25th. I read all these these threads where everyone is so excited that they finally have a surgery date. Instead of being excited, I am just mad that my surgery date is so far away. Not saying that I am not happy about my upcoming surgery, I am very happy about it. I am also hurt, I don't have hardly any friends and pretty much the only two close friends I have, have totally ditched me because they can't have the surgery too. My husband just says they are jealous. He says I should just be happy that I didn't have to jump thru all the hoops that most people do and I am only having to pay 75.00 dollars out of pocket for my surgery. I should be happy, but why do I feel so down?

I am scheduled for surgery on June 25th. I read all these these threads where everyone is so excited that they finally have a surgery date. Instead of being excited, I am just mad that my surgery date is so far away. Not saying that I am not happy about my upcoming surgery, I am very happy about it. I am also hurt, I don't have hardly any friends and pretty much the only two close friends I have, have totally ditched me because they can't have the surgery too. My husband just says they are jealous. He says I should just be happy that I didn't have to jump thru all the hoops that most people do and I am only having to pay 75.00 dollars out of pocket for my surgery. I should be happy, but why do I feel so down?

I understand completely. I go today for surgery date. And I thought it was preop. I had did all required. So I'm sure I'll be at the end of June.

I am scheduled for surgery on June 25th. I read all these these threads where everyone is so excited that they finally have a surgery date. Instead of being excited, I am just mad that my surgery date is so far away. Not saying that I am not happy about my upcoming surgery, I am very happy about it. I am also hurt, I don't have hardly any friends and pretty much the only two close friends I have, have totally ditched me because they can't have the surgery too. My husband just says they are jealous. He says I should just be happy that I didn't have to jump thru all the hoops that most people do and I am only having to pay 75.00 dollars out of pocket for my surgery. I should be happy, but why do I feel so down?

I understand completely. I go today for surgery date. And I thought it was preop. I had did all required. So I'm sure I'll be at the end of June.

Let me know when your date is..

To Jtickle- don't be sad your date will be here before you know it. I can't believe your friends ditched you bc they aren't having surgery, it sounds like to me that they were never really your friends to begin with true friends will stick by you no matter what. I go on the 19th to see my Dr and he will schedule me for a date, I might be in June also. So try and cheer up as my kids would say turn that frown upside down LOL.

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To Jtickle- don't be sad your date will be here before you know it. I can't believe your friends ditched you bc they aren't having surgery, it sounds like to me that they were never really your friends to begin with true friends will stick by you no matter what. I go on the 19th to see my Dr and he will schedule me for a date, I might be in June also. So try and cheer up as my kids would say turn that frown upside down LOL.

Thanks for your reply. Your post made me feel better. You probably right, a true friend would stick with me no matter what. My husband told me this morning that I should happy with my date, because I didn't have to jump through any hoops to get it. Just had to do the routine testing required by the surgeon. Even my personal psychiatrist got me out of the psych eval, he wrote the surgeon a letter stating that I am able to make decisions on my own and that the weight loss would probably help my mental state. I didn't have to do the 6 month diet either. My insurance only requires a patient be over 18, bmi of 40+, and bariatric center of excellence. I don't have to drive hours to the hospital like some members do. I live 10 minutes away. You know, I have quite a few things to be happy about. I only have 43 days to go. I hope your appointment on the 19th goes well.

Please don't feel down because of two individuals that in my opinion are mean, jealous fools who are really bad uncaring people.

They are no kind of friend if they act this way towards you.

Your date will be here sooner then you expect. The time will go very fast.

You should be very proud that you are taking this step to better health.

Good luck with your upcoming surgery.

Jtickle I am sorry that your friends are taking their frustration out on you, please take one day at a time you are bless to have a low out of pocket expense and making the choice to be healthy is a good choice, I have been on my journal since August of last year and had to wait 5 months just to get a surgery date when my 6 months were up I have surgery Monday and it seems like a lifetime , your day will come faster than you think, you have friends here, please add me we can talk anytime Good luck my friend and your husbands right by the way .